Hello and welcome back to practicing human, the podcast where every day we're

getting a little better at life. I'm your host, Corey Miscarra, and in today's

episode we're going to talk about a different way to think about letting go.

More to come on that in a moment. First let's settle in together with the sound of

the bells.

Okay, so I want to start with a provocative statement. And that statement is, if you

want to let go, you must fall in love with the part of you that is holding on. If you

want to let go, you must fall in love with the part of you that is holding on. This is

typically a hard thing for us to understand mainly because the part of us that is holding

on, regardless of what it is, relationship, past identity, job, just anything you want

to transition from but feel stuck in a loop around. We often feel like that part is

hurting us, creating suffering and in some cases ruining our life. Only I could just

let go. What's wrong with me? Why can't I do this? It should be easy. We try to will

our way into release and anyone who's tried to do that. No, it doesn't really work

too well. Or you temporarily suppress the holding on or force yourself into like a pseudo

form of release where you just put all of your energy, where you're trying to go, but

it's mainly a fighting the part of you that's holding on and you're trying to block that

out, block that out. But it's not a real letting go. And this is where you will often relapse

into the holding on. And so where does loving that part come in? Well, we have to understand

why the holding on is happening in the first place. And the reason a part of us would

hold on is because it's afraid it's going to lose something if it lets go. That something

can take a lot of different forms, but I am going to reduce it to love. It can also

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