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10% Happier with Dan Harris

How to Actually Be Present | Matthew Brensilver

10% Happier with Dan Harris

10% Media, LLC

Dan Harris, Health & Fitness, Mindfulness, Dharma, Mental Health, Meditation

4.612.2K Ratings

🗓️ 20 July 2022

⏱️ 70 minutes

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Summary

Today we’re gonna tackle one of the best known contemplative clichés: being in the present moment and inhabiting the now.


The present moment seems to be a state we aspire towards, but are rarely given practical information about how to actually achieve. But today’s guest, Matthew Brensilver offers just that— practical information on how to achieve being present. We also explore his argument that when painful memories surface in meditation, it acts as a kind of exposure therapy that acclimates us to the things we may not want to face.


This is Matthew Brensilver‘s second appearance on the show. He teaches retreats at the Insight Retreat Center, Spirit Rock and other Buddhist centers. Before committing to teach meditation full-time, he spent years doing research on addiction pharmacotherapy at the UCLA Center for Behavioral and Addiction Medicine. Matthew is the co-author of two books about meditation during adolescence and continues to be interested in the unfolding dialogue between Buddhism and science. 



In this episode we talk about:


  • What “be present” actually means
  • What to do when Buddhist teachings or meditation instructions feel out of reach and when we start compulsively self-assessing against them
  • What to do when a memory arises in meditation, especially a difficult memory
  • The brain’s tendency toward constant prediction
  • The benefits of meditation retreat
  • And distinguishing between true alarms and false alarms




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Transcript

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0:00.0

This is the 10% happier podcast.

0:05.9

I'm Dan Harris.

0:07.9

Hey gang, today we're going to tackle one of the best known contemplative cliches.

0:16.2

Being in the present moment, inhabiting the now, this is one of these vented states we

0:21.4

are exhorted to aspire to, but are rarely given any practical information about how to actually

0:28.2

achieve.

0:29.4

Now, obviously there are lots of reasons why you should want to be in the present moment

0:33.7

because that's the only time it ever is.

0:36.2

But my guess today is going to make a very specific argument for the utility of the present

0:41.8

moment in terms of your psychological well-being.

0:44.6

His argument is that when painful memories surface in meditation, it acts as a kind of exposure

0:50.1

therapy, acclimating us to the things we may not want to face.

0:54.1

I love this in part because it goes right at one of the fundamental misconceptions about

0:58.7

meditation, which is that so-called distractions are bad.

1:03.6

But often the memories, thought patterns, urges and emotions that arise in meditation, often

1:08.6

that's the good stuff.

1:09.9

It's what you're meant to see, but in a new and different and hopefully more skillful

1:14.6

way.

1:15.6

This is Matthew Brennsel, the second appearance on this show.

1:18.3

He teaches retreats at the Insight Retreat Center, Spirit Rock and other Buddhist centers,

1:23.1

before committing to teach meditation full-time.

1:24.8

He spent years doing research on addiction at the UCLA Center for Behavioral and Addiction

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