How Peer Pressure Really Works & Is Shyness Normal?

Something You Should Know

Mike Carruthers | OmniCastMedia

Science, Social Sciences, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 4K Ratings

🗓️ 16 May 2022

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Don’t you hate it when a doctor makes you wait well past your appointment time? Why do they do that? Should you complain? What’s a reasonable amount of time to wait before you say something? This episode begins with some interesting insight into the problem and what you should do to make sure the doctor understands your time is valuable. https://www.fiercehealthcare.com/practices/ppatients-switched-doctors-long-wait-times-vitals# How effective is peer pressure? Are we really influenced by the people around us - and if so, how much? Do we exert peer pressure on other without realizing it? Is there a way to use peer pressure to get people to change their behavior? Joining me to discuss all this is Robert Frank, a professor of Management and Economics at Cornell University’s Johnson Graduate School of Management and author of the book Under the Influence: Putting Peer Pressure to Work (https://amzn.to/3L4HPno). Only 2% of people claim they never feel shy. The rest of us have all been in situations where we have felt shy to some degree. Why does that happen? Why are some people more shy than others? How can you overcome that feeling in situations that really matter? Here to help is Lynn Henderson. She has worked with shy people to help them break free from those shy feelings that hold them back from fully participating in life. Lynne is the founder of the Social Fitness Center and the founder and co-director of the Shyness Institute. She is also author of The Shyness Workbook (https://amzn.to/3sA1Njp). Have you ever just “clicked” with someone? It happens not only in romance but in friendship and in business. People sometimes just click. What happens to cause that? Who are you most likely to click with? Listen as I explain some interesting facts that can help you -click! Source: Ori Brafman author of Click (https://amzn.to/3FF1nO0). PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen! Truebill is the smartest way to manage your finances. The average person saves $720 per year with Truebill. Get started today at https://Truebill.com/SYSK! Sign up for your FREE Novo business checking account RIGHT NOW at https://Novo.co/Something and you'll get access to over $5,000 in perks and discounts! With Avast One, https://avast.com you can confidently take control of your online world without worrying about viruses, phishing attacks, ransomware, hacking attempts, & other cybercrimes! Small Businesses are ready to thrive again and looking for resources to rise to the challenge. That’s why Dell Technologies has assembled an all-star lineup of podcasters (and we're one of them!) for the third year in a row to create a virtual conference to share advice and inspiration for Small Businesses. Search Dell Technologies Small Business Podference on Audacy.com, Spotify or Apple podcasts starting May 10th! With prices soaring at the pump, Discover has your back with cash back! Use the Discover Card & earn 5% cash back at Gas Stations and Target, now through June, when you activate. Get up to $75 cash back this quarter with Discover it® card. Learn more at https://discover.com/rewards If you're the type of person who's always thinking about new business ideas or wondering “What’s the next side hustle I should spin up?” — check out the podcast My First Million! Today is made for Thrill! Style, Power, Discovery, Adventure, however you do thrill, Nissan has a vehicle to make it happen at https://nissanusa.com Whether you’re going on a cross country trip or just up the street, please buckle up! Don’t risk it. And remember, Click It or Ticket. Brought to you by NHTSA. Use SheetzGo on the Sheetz app! Just open the app, scan your snacks, tap your payment method and go! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:36.0	Today on something you should know, what to do when your doctor makes you wait, well past your appointment time. Then understanding peer pressure.
0:46.0	It's really interesting how peer pressure can determine how much you and your friends weigh.
0:52.0	One of the early studies showed statistically that there was actually a fairly strong link. That if others in your social network became obese, you were much more likely to become obese yourself. Also, why do you just click with some people but not others? And shyness. Why do we feel shy in the first place?
1:14.0	It's a fear of negative evaluation that sometimes interferes with you're doing what you really want to do. That's when it's problematic. But it's only 2% of the population who say they've never experienced shyness. It's a universal human emotion.
1:30.0	All this today on something you should know.
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1:54.0	Something you should know. Fascinating Intel. The world's top experts. And practical advice you can use in your life today. Something you should know with my corothers.
2:07.0	Hi, hey, here we go with another episode of something you should know. And we're going to start today with one of my pet peeves.
2:15.0	And that's when a doctor or a dentist consistently makes you wait well past your appointment time before they see you. I understand things come up and occasionally it happens. But it's when it happens all the time. I don't know.
2:31.0	I guess it's because if I made appointments with people and showed up 40 minutes late all the time, that would be a problem. And apparently I'm not the only one who is bugged by this.
2:42.0	According to a survey, one in five patients say they have switched doctors because of long wait times. I would be part of that one in five. 30% of patients have left a doctor's appointment because of a long wait.
2:57.0	Now the average wait time is about 20 minutes and Stephen Rimer of the Yale Medical School has studied this problem and says nobody should have to wait more than 20 minutes without a good explanation. And that's the other thing. Anticipated wait is a lot easier to take than not knowing how long you're going to wait.
3:18.0	So if it's going to be longer than 20 minutes, someone should tell you if they don't, you should go to the desk and ask why you have to wait so long.
3:27.0	Dr. Rimer says you should also tell the doctor not just the staff that this bothers you. People are timid when it comes to criticizing their doctor.
3:36.0	But it's the doctor who sets the appointment policy. The doctor is responsible for your wait. No other business would survive if customers were kept waiting so long.
3:48.0	And doctors need to understand that your time is valuable. And that is something you should know.
3:55.0	We've all heard the term peer pressure. I'm sure you know what it means. Yet I've come to learn from my guest who you're about to meet that that term is a bit of a misnomer, at least the pressure part.
4:10.0	It's not so much pressure when you think of pressuring someone or coercing someone. It's more about modeling behavior.
4:18.0	Your behavior that you model influences other people's behavior and your behavior is influenced by other people's behavior. Probably more than you imagine.
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