Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness

rather than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope

as you spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

So today we're going to be talking about how a narcissist gets you to take on the negative

characteristics that they can't accept about themselves.

So a narcissist lives in a fantasy world.

In the world of a narcissist, he or she is grandiose,

he or she is perfect. Everyone else is less than. They're going to micromanage you if you

are in their life. They're going to look for things about you that they can ridicule, that they

can pick apart, that they can nitpick, and basically induce the sense that you need them,

they're superior to you, and you're inept. That's really the goal. The goal is to get you to

even take on and to receive the qualities within themselves that they can't tolerate or they can't consciously integrate. And that's the

whole purpose of what is known as projective identification. So when it comes to projection,

you can project something about yourself, this unwanted or unconscious character flaw about yourself, or there's the aspect of your

personality that you're just not pleased with. There's something about you that you don't like

and you don't know how to resolve it. Maybe you eat too fast. Maybe you interrupt people when they're

talking. And you haven't mastered these things yet. But when you see

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