You've been doing this for more than 20 years. So what have you seen in your experience as what I would classify as the most dangerous decisions people make thinking that they are innocuous.

One of the most dangerous things is not to be involved.

It's kind of like going to the doctors and getting a

checkup but actually not asking for the results. Like who would ever do that?

That's the equivalent of not really being part of the finances.

It's really important and it's one of the best ways to protect yourself. As a married woman without a pre-nup, I was rightfully shook upon learning what I had agreed to simply by signing my name on our marriage certificate back in 2021.

I'm nothing if not confident in my romantic decisiveness, and my husband is, if I may speak frankly a catch and a half who happens to be a stellar person with more

integrity in his little finger than the majority of the male population that I have interacted with but still

understanding how the contracts you are signing affect your future decisions is a basic survival requirement, and the marriage contract is no different.

We've done episodes in the past about the absolute budgetary explosion of lace and

florals that is the modern wedding as well as a look into pre-ups before with the legendary Kim Davis so we will

link those in the show notes but we've never snorkeled into the waters of how

marriage legally changes your financial rights and how those changes might matter later if you were ever to get

divorced. It's also really important to me that you all know I permanently ruined my YouTube

algorithm on behalf of this episode's accuracy.

At one point I was watching a man named Kyle with 231 subscribers do an asset split

example on a whiteboard in one of those bleak suburban office park cubicles with white noise piped in.

That said I'm not an attorney and the law varies by state so please don't make this

the only piece of content that you consume about marriage.

If you're going through or considering a divorce, please hire a divorce attorney and engage

in some good old-fashioned due-dill as the kids say.

I loved how divorce attorney James Sexton framed it in a financial diet video.

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