All right, welcome to today's book of the day show got a special guest here Matt Lieberman

We're talking about social his book how our brains and wire brains are wired to connect to other people

So thanks for being on pleasure to be here. You live not too far down the street here

Not too far UCLA is pretty close. I read I forget what book

I think there was a book called top dog by Pope bronze and it was basically saying

That introvert should match up with some extroverted friends. Yeah, because the extroverts will kind of naturally be like this

Push them out and be like hey, let's go out this weekend

You know, and I see that a lot a lot of introverted people's best friends. Yep are an extrovert

Yeah, I think that can work. I think it depends on the person

But yeah, no, I've certainly seen that as well

That you want someone you know, I've got friends who can't stop talking and friends who really don't talk much unless they're in the right

Mood and if you put those two people together

You feel less anxious about not being a talker if there's someone who just fills the space

Yeah, they talk a lot and they're very sort of

Grigarius and so on and so it just takes the edge it takes the pressure off of you

Yeah, you get to be a little bit more of the audience and maybe that works more for some folks

You know, I think the key thing is is you know, don't beat yourself up

We're all built the way we're built. Yeah, don't try to be someone else try to find the things that work for you

So if this advice works for you then that's great double down on yeah

And if not then you know, that's fine

There's nothing wrong with three shy people to be in best friends like it's what works

But I think everyone has that need and if that need isn't fulfilled

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