How long should I stay mad? (Monday Moments ep. 311)

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John O'Leary

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🗓️ 30 November 2020

⏱️ 5 minutes

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Summary

“Being resentful is like taking poison…. and waiting for the other person to die.” – Nelson Mandela

My friends, how long should you stay mad?

I must admit that in my life, and perhaps you’ve found in yours, that even with the door open and the bridge of reconciliation available, I tug on my jacket, turn around in anger, and walk into the cold rain by myself.

But going forward, let’s determine to let go of our ego.

Let’s choose to ring the bell, meet their smile with ours, and come back into the house.

Let’s set down the poison, reenter relationship, and realize the gift of doing life, together.

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0:00.0	Well, hello, my friends, and welcome to the Live Inspired podcast Monday Morning Moments, the Monday after Thanksgiving with John O'Leary.
0:16.6	Nelson Mandela spent 27 years behind bars just off the coast of South Africa.
0:23.5	And one of my favorite quotes from him and gave this at a live presentation after getting out of jail was this.
0:29.1	Being resentful is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
0:36.1	So let me ask you a question today.
0:40.4	How long should we stay mad? I don't know about you, but it's a question I ask myself far more frequently than I'd like to
0:45.4	admit. It's likely one that you've wrestled with as well. Today, perhaps it's a friend who let you
0:51.2	down or maybe a coworker missed an important deadline, maybe a child
0:55.4	disobeyed or you had a petty fight that erupted between you and a family member.
0:59.7	And with the added stress of the approaching holidays upon us, we'll likely have additional
1:04.3	occasions of being somehow slided or offended or let down.
1:09.7	So let's ask the question one more time. How long should we stay mad?
1:14.8	How long should we stay mad? This was a question that Walter Wangren had to ask himself as well.
1:21.6	He shares vulnerably in his book Ragman and other cries of faith that he and his wife used to have frequent disagreements
1:29.1	when they were first married. He was hot-tempered and maybe a bit prideful. His coping strategy in
1:35.3	those early days was to storm out of their apartment to slam the door and to walk it off.
1:41.1	It was, in some regards, a misguided way of proving to her that he was right. Well, on one such
1:48.1	occasion, after a small disagreement, Walter angrily stormed away from his wife. He grabbed his jacket.
1:54.3	He put it on. He stormed outside and slammed the door shut, only to realize that his coat was now stuck in the door jam.
2:03.6	It was a frigid evening. It was pouring outside. The door was locked and he was trapped.
2:10.3	With the steady rain falling, Walter had only two choices. He could take off the jacket.
2:16.6	He could leave it in the doorway and he could walk into the frigid rain without a jacket. Or, or he could simply humble himself. He could ring the doorbell, have his wife open the door and be released from the prison. So what would you have done? What would you have done?
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