How I Got Victory Over PORNOGRAPHY Part 1 of 2 w/ Nathan and Martha Driskill

Dear Young Married Couple

Adam & Karissa King

Christianity, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 871 Ratings

🗓️ 28 April 2020

⏱️ 52 minutes

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This is the first part of a 2-part exclusive interview with Nathan and Martha Driskill, the Young Married Leaders at Christian Life Church in Mequon, WI. In this interview, Nathan shares his childhood story of how the addiction to pornography began and how it followed him into adulthood. Martha joins the story when she shares how she met, dated, and married Nathan, and then how the porn addiction stayed hidden until their 7th year of marriage. In part 2, Martha shares how she found out about Nathan's addiction and then Nathan and Martha discuss practical steps they took toward healing over the last 13 years (including resources that they recommend to other couples who find themselves in this place of pain and fear). Nathan recommended the following books for the spouse with the addiction: Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker Every Man's Marriage by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker Intoxicated with Babylon by Steve Gallagher At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry by Steve Gallagher Pure Desire by Ted Roberts The Walk of Repentance by Steve Gallagher / Pure Life Ministries - 24-week course: the first 12 weeks are overseen by a mentor and the final 12 weeks are completed solo. (Martha and I went through this individually in 2013. It was crucial in Martha's recovery and further solidified my recovery as it led me even closer to God's heart for us in this world.) The Conquer Series (Our church recently went through this program. I served as a group leader in this 10-week series as well as the following series) 7 Pillars of Freedom Workbook by Ted Roberts (28-week men's group series: I am currently leading this series with a group of men from our church - Good stuff!) Martha recommended the following books for the wounded spouse: Every Heart Restored by Fred and Brenda Stoeker The Healing Choice by Brenda Stoeker and Susan Allen When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart by Kathy Gallagher Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (This book was very helpful for me to understand men’s struggle.) Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com P.S. Here are the links to the marriage card decks we created for couples who want to become more connected: FOUNDATIONS: https://amzn.to/2RaXF7g SEXPECTATIONS: https://amzn.to/2GbVMRA REALIZATIONS: https://amzn.to/3brNTWh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:29.9	Okay, I've found this really special, awesome girl that I think is going to be the woman I spend
0:34.6	the rest of my life with and all of my problems are going to be over. I mean, all my gaps she's going to fill and, you know, as far as the sexual desires and things like that,
0:42.5	it's just going to all work together and I won't have to struggle anymore, right? Well, that was, that's,
0:46.8	that's not how that works. When pornography comes into your marriage, you're no longer standing in front of your husband by yourself. You're standing in
0:54.5	front of your husband with multiple other women. It could be thousands of other women, most of whom
1:01.0	have been airbrushed to perfection. In an instant, your marriage goes from this innocent
1:06.5	relationship to this polluted relationship where you feel extremely insecure. And it's very,
1:14.4	very traumatic and devastating for a woman. Dear young married couple, you're in a busy season
1:22.5	of your life. You're probably working and involved in ministry. On top of that, you might even be parents or students.
1:30.6	You're maxed, but you really want to stay connected in your marriage.
1:35.0	And that's why we're bringing this podcast to you. I'm Adam King. And I'm Carissa King, and we work
1:40.2	with busy couples just like you in our counseling office here in Sacramento, California.
1:47.5	We also work with couples all over the world through online counseling.
1:51.8	And our couples are really just looking for ways to communicate with each other more effectively.
1:58.7	Some of them are looking to heal from a breach and trust or find direction in fulfilling the purpose that God has for them.
2:01.1	So come and join us as we have a conversation.
2:07.3	We'll talk with therapists, authors, pastors, and other couples who will pour into us,
2:12.7	giving us tools to become more intimately connected, get adventurous, and find purpose.
2:14.9	Hello, everybody.
2:21.9	Today, we're going to hear a unique story and by unique I don't mean uncommon.
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