How Food, Hormones & Shame Are Destroying Your Sex Life l Ft. Will Cole

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 29 July 2025

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this illuminating episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with Dr. Will Cole, a leader in functional medicine and author of Gut Feelings, to explore how emotional and physical health are deeply connected, and how addressing both is essential for a thriving sex life, better relationships, and holistic well-being. Dr. Cole explains the "shameflammation connection"; how repressed emotions like shame, guilt, and stress can cause chronic inflammation, impacting libido, energy, and connection. He breaks down this mind-body cycle where emotional stress manifests as physical illness and offers somatic tools for healing, emphasizing that nervous system regulation is crucial to breaking this loop through breathwork, stillness, and rituals that bring people back into their bodies. We dive deep into the gut-brain connection and its major role in mood, hormone balance, and sexual health. Dr. Cole reveals how processed foods, sugar, and unresolved trauma can hijack desire and performance, while discussing silent inflammation and hormone imbalances that often show up as low libido, fatigue, or anxiety. He uses advanced lab testing to find hidden causes when patients say "I don't feel like myself." The conversation addresses shame around pleasure and sexual identity, highlighting how culture often teaches us to suppress pleasure or disconnect from desire. Both Emily and Dr. Cole agree that reclaiming sensuality starts with removing shame and practicing compassionate self-awareness. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:57 - What is Functional Medicine? 8:24 - The Science Behind "Gut Feelings" 13:37 - How Emotions Become Physical Symptoms 22:27 - Foods That Don't Love You Back 32:07 - Testosterone, Estrogen & Sexual Health 39:04 - Where to Find Functional Medicine Support 46:25 - The Missing Conversation 52:18 - Self-Respect Over Obsession 54:29 - Quickfire Round

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0:00.0	Throughout human history, our ancestors knew somehow, inexplicably, ineffably, that our gut was the seed of the soul somehow, that our gut and brain were somehow connected.
0:11.4	They didn't have randomized control trials.
0:13.4	They didn't have all the science that we have, but they knew from experience and experiencing people observation that there is some connection there.
0:25.0	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize
0:29.1	your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Today's episode is all about
0:33.1	connection, the deep, often invisible link between your body, your emotions, and your sex life.
0:38.4	I'm joined by functional medicine expert Dr. Will Cole, and we're diving into a topic
0:42.8	that's been quietly affecting so many of us, shame inflammation. If you've ever felt
0:48.2	burned out, anxious, inflamed, or just off, and you can't quite figure out why, this conversation
0:53.3	is for you. We're breaking down
0:54.9	the fascinating science of how emotional stress, unresolved shame, and even trauma can manifest
0:59.4	as physical symptoms in your body, including your hormones, gut health, and sexual vitality.
1:04.6	Dr. Cole and I talk about how libido isn't just about sex. It's a reflection of your whole
1:09.2	body health. We explore why so many people
1:11.7	feel exhausted, disconnected, or dysregulated, and how lifestyle shifts, mindset tools, and nervous
1:19.1	system support can help you come back into alignment. We'll also tackle the medical system's
1:23.7	blind spots around sexuality. The guilt so many of us carry about pleasure and why self-compassion isn't just nice.
1:30.5	It's a healing tool.
1:31.5	My intention is to help you see your body as an ally, not an enemy, to understand how your
1:35.9	emotional and physical wellness are deeply intertwined and to support you in reclaiming
1:40.6	pleasure, energy, and intimacy from the inside out.
1:43.7	All right, everybody, enjoy this
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