Understanding how your parents' emotional maturity has affected you is actually one of the best ways to avoid repeating the past in your adult relationships.

So I'm giving you a little short exercise.

If you're trying to figure out if you grew up in a household where one of your parents was emotionally immature,

I'm going to read through the following statements, and you can check to see if any of those

describe your parent or what it was like to grow up with them.

And maybe that will kind of give you a better idea to better understand yourself and how

you're currently approaching relationships.

And maybe then you'll want to do some further research in the type of parent that you

grew up with and how you can work on

yourself to fix where you are currently attracted to, drawn to, or have been accepting.

The assessment is, my parent often overreacts to relatively minor things.

My parent didn't express much empathy or emotional awareness.

When it came to emotional closeness and feelings,

my parent seemed uncomfortable and didn't go there. My parent was often irritated by individual

differences or different points of view. When I was growing up, my parent used me as a confident,

but wasn't a confident for me. My parent often said and did things without thinking about people's

feelings. I didn't get

much attention or sympathy for my parent, except maybe when I was really sick. My parent was inconsistent,

sometimes wise, sometimes unreasonable. If I became upset, my parents either said something superficial

and unhelpful or got angry and sarcastic. Conversations mostly centered on my parents' interest.

Even polite disagreements can make my parent very defensive. It was deflating to tell my

parent about my success because it never seemed to matter. Facts and logic were no match for my

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