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My husband and I recently just got married and my grandma and aunt couldn't be at the wedding,

but they want to send us a large monetary gift.

But my husband and I, we both agree that we don't want to receive that gift. But my husband and I, we both agree that we don't want to receive that gift. However, my mom

says it's disrespectful to not take it because it's like a cultural tradition. And so she went

ahead and talked to my grandma and basically she told my grandma that she'll take the money like my grandma can just transfer

to her and then she'll transfer it to me.

I'm sorry.

I'm sorry.

We don't have any cultural traditions at our house that we get money from a wrench aunt.

So this is a new one on me.

Explain to me what the cultural tradition is.

I'm confused.

It's like a pretty popular thing in Asian culture when, like, your relatives get married instead of giving them, like, an actual, like, gift.

You give them money instead.

Okay. So she's getting ready to give you a bunch of money. Are there strings attached to it?

That's why we're afraid to, like, receive the gift because when it comes to, like, money with my extended family, it feels like there's always... Has this happened before? No, it's brand new. They just got married. But, I mean, the context of, I get money and there's strings attached. Sounds like you have some serious hesitations. Because generally, if somebody wants me to send money, I'll take it.

I'm still a little confused here.

Yeah, it just feels like in the past when my grandma has sent money to my parents, it felt like there were strings attached because she's, my grandma's always been very opinionated and involved in our family decisions and I just don't want that for my new

so let me ask you this um if you accepted the gift the gift didn't come with any stated

strings they're just implied by part of the tradition is an interfering

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