Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

podcast, a support resource for Women of Faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to episode 98 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today Becky and I are going to be talking about something that I think is a it's going to be

it's a painful subject okay and it's a subject that I get asked questions about all the time from the women who are in my programs the flying free and the flying higher programs.

We're going to be talking about relationships with our older kids.

And I'm talking about relationships with kids that are 18 and older who are out of the house or they could still be living with you but they're basically adults.

They've, your work with them, your hard work with them is is done and now they get to make their own choices and

they get to have their own beliefs and they get to be on their own journey.

The only problem is that we as moms feel like we're being yanked along for the ride and the ride is not very pleasant.

So, okay, so first of all, hi Becky, I just want to say hi.

Hey, Natalie.

She's here, but I want to kind of preface this whole thing.

And I know Becky can relate because we both come out

of the same kind of background but I am talking to

moms who are listening who were like all in on parenting okay we were the

we were the moms that were gave up our careers to stay home and

homeschool and bake bread and make and make healthy meals and be a homemaker and and be there for our kids

pacing the kitchen floor praying for them every day. We had this vision.

Becky why don't you tell tell what was your vision well I do believe that all of this was going to bring about in in the future of your life and your children yeah and I would say most of what I desired as a mom was to not be like my abusive mom.

So I think a lot of us come out of not such healthy home lives and we want to do it completely different and we know that if we think if we work hard enough that it's going to all turn out and so we easily buy into systems and in homeschooling there are these ideas that if you do

A, B and C the result is going to be D, E and F or whatever.

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