How compassion could save your strained relationships | Betty Hart

TED Talks Daily

TED

Creativity, Ted Podcast, Ted Talks Daily, Business, Design, Inspiration, Society & Culture, Science, Technology, Education, Tech Demo, Ted Talks, Ted, Entertainment, Tedtalks

4.1 • 11.9K Ratings

🗓️ 2 March 2021

⏱️ 12 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

When personal relationships and ideological differences collide, the result can lead to strained relations -- or even years of silence and distance. Actor Betty Hart offers an alternative to cold shoulders and haughty hellos: compassion, and a chance for growth and change instead of losing important time with loved ones.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	It's TED Talks Daily. I'm Elise Hugh.
0:06.3	On today's show, cancel culture.
0:08.8	You know what it is when people of prominence are so-called canceled.
0:11.9	In today's 2020 talk from TEDx Cherry Creek women,
0:15.5	conversation facilitator Betty Hart tackles the problem with canceling people in our personal lives. And she asks us to
0:23.2	consider a different approach. I am unabashedly a daddy's girl. My daddy is the first person to have
0:35.9	told me that I was beautiful.
0:43.8	He often told me that he loved me, and he was one of my favorite people in the entire world,
1:00.8	which was why it was really challenging to discover that we had a deep ideological divide that was so sincere and so deep that caused me to not talk to him for 10 years. Before the term was coined, I canceled my father. In the last few years, cancel culture has of course come into great
1:16.0	prominence. It's existed throughout time. But cancel culture in the bigger society is when a person
1:23.0	in prominence says or does something that we, the people, disagree with, and the decision is made
1:29.3	to make them persona non grata. They are done. They are not to be revered. They are not to be a part
1:35.6	of our world anymore. And that is in the public realm. I'm going to talk to you today about the private
1:43.6	realm.
1:45.0	When we choose to cancel the people in our circle, the people in our core, the people who love us and who we love, and it has been mutually beneficial, but due to a deep and sincere ideological divide, we make the decision to cancel them out of our lives.
2:08.0	I want to suggest that cancel culture needs to change, and instead we need to move to compassion culture but before i go there let me tell you two of the
2:22.7	premises that exist when we indulge in cancel culture one we have to believe that we're right
2:29.8	a hundred percent no possibility of being wrong.
2:42.9	And two, the other person, the person we're going to cancel, clearly does not have the ability to change, to grow, to develop.
2:48.3	Obviously, both of these are problematic because sometimes we're not right.
2:55.0	I don't know about you, but there have been times in my life when I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was right,
3:01.5	only to discover that I was wrong, badly wrong, completely missed the mark.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from TED, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of TED and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.