How All Successful Marriages Navigate Change Together | Mark Manson EP 540

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 893 Ratings

🗓️ 29 February 2024

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Summary

Mark Manson explores the dynamics of long-term relationships, emphasizing the importance of alignment on key values while acknowledging the natural evolution of individuals over time. Mark delves into the challenges that arise when partners diverge in their beliefs around money, religion, and family, suggesting that surviving misalignment on one but not all of these issues is possible. He also shares personal experiences of intentional evolution within his own marriage, communicating significant changes in career and health priorities to maintain alignment with his partner. Mark encourages couples to evolve together consciously, fostering understanding and adaptability to bridge any gaps that may emerge.

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0:00.0	Hi my name is Louis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
0:07.0	Is love, trust, and respect enough to sustain a long-term healthy relationship in your mind?
0:19.0	It's a really good question and I think it depends.
0:22.0	I don't think you'll ever find two people that are 100% aligned on values.
0:25.8	Everybody is a little bit different, right?
0:28.6	I think you also want a little bit of diversity of values within the relationship.
0:33.0	You want to have different standards for different things
0:36.3	and different opinions about different issues.
0:38.8	It just makes life way more interesting.
0:41.3	There's probably a threshold or a breaking point somewhere.
0:44.0	One of the examples I've used in a book before is like if somebody is a priest and the other person's a stripper,
0:51.0	like it doesn't matter how in love they are with each other. It's never
0:55.6	going to work, right? The handful of things that seem to come up all the time are differences
1:02.0	of beliefs around money, differences of beliefs around money differences of beliefs around
1:04.8	religion and differences of beliefs around kids and family yeah and I think if you can
1:10.4	probably survive not being aligned on one of those, but if you're not aligned on two or all of them,
1:21.5	you're probably in trouble. You're probably just going to butt heads over and over again.
1:26.5	What if someone involves their values over time you know and five ten
1:32.3	15 years into the relationship you know what I actually
1:34.4	don't have those beliefs and that lifestyle choice anymore I'm gonna try something
1:38.0	different yeah do you think the love of the past the history of the relationship can sustain if it's too much of a conflict
1:46.1	around those lifestyle choices or beliefs.
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