How a Single Conversation Could Improve Your Relationship Forever with Topaz Adizes • 355

Mind Love • Modern Mindfulness to Think, Feel, and Live Well

Melissa Monte | Mindset Mentor

Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 897 Ratings

🗓️ 2 July 2024

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

We will learn: The hidden power of acceptance in relationships. How asking thought-provoking questions can revolutionize your conversations and relationships. How to craft questions that avoid dead-end answers and spark powerful, transformative discussions. Have you ever noticed that certain conversations or people leave you feeling a particular way? Maybe it’s a really good feeling—like true connection, fulfillment, or belonging. Or maybe it’s not so great, leaving you frustrated, disconnected, or defensive. Sometimes, it’s hard to pinpoint why. The question is, do certain dynamics just exist as they are, and you’ll never feel that harmony? Or is there something you can do to spark it? To align better with the other person? Too often, when we shift our own patterns, the people and circumstances around us shift too. And that starts with our own communication. So today, we’re going to learn how to shift your life by asking better, more intentional questions and how to create those moments of true connection more regularly. Our guest is Topaz Adizes. He is an Emmy Award-winning writer, director, and experience design architect. His works have been selected to Cannes, Sundance, IDFA, and SXSW; featured in New Yorker magazine, Vanity Fair, and the New York Times; and have garnered an Emmy for new approaches to documentary and Two World Press photo awards for immersive storytelling and interactive documentary. He is currently the founder and executive director of the experience design studio The Skin Deep. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/355 Become a Mind Love Member for high-value Masterclasses, Growth Workbooks, Monthly Meditations, and Uninterrupted Listening FREE 5-Days to Purpose Email Course Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Have you ever noticed that certain conversations or even people leave you feeling a particular way?
0:07.0	Maybe it's a really good feeling, like true connection, fulfillment, or belonging.
0:13.7	Or maybe it's not so great, leaving you frustrated, disconnected, or defensive.
0:19.4	And sometimes it's kind of hard to pinpoint why.
0:23.4	Did the good feelings come from a friend who just listened better?
0:27.4	Did they validate your feelings even if they didn't agree?
0:31.1	Did the bad feeling leave you defensive because no matter what you said they had a rebuttal and you didn't even really know the topic was debatable?
0:39.0	Or maybe you just felt out of sync?
0:42.0	I remember when I first gained the perspective to start tuning
0:46.1	into this. I was blown away. Someone had challenged me to notice which relationships
0:52.0	drained me and which energized me. I was surprised to realize that the
0:56.7	person I believed to be my best friend at the time was actually one of the draining relationships.
1:06.3	But I was so used to our dynamic that I didn't even notice.
1:15.8	Maybe it wasn't always like that, but once I saw it, I realized it had been happening for at least a year and once I saw it I couldn't unsee it so pretty soon that 10-year friendship dissolved. The question is do
1:22.3	certain dynamics just exist as they are and you'll never feel that harmony?
1:27.0	Or is there something you can do to spark it, to align better with the other person.
1:35.9	With my friend, it wasn't always that way, so something must have shifted, right?
1:38.8	Could I have shifted it back?
1:40.9	Or is that just the way the universe gives us a sign to move on?
1:45.0	Well, here's what I've learned.
1:47.0	Relationships are mirrors.
1:49.0	I spent a long time in the early stages of my spiritual growth taking signs that vibes were off and
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