The virtue is he being insecure is he being

Controlling because they're in this relationship together and it's pretty solid here

There's one part of their intimate life though

He's not comfortable with and that is the mattress that she sleeps on and he wants her to get rid of it

Dear Bert Show members and Bert Show audience. I am a 30 year old woman who has been dating my boyfriend for two months

We have a great time together and have a strong connection

But there's one issue that has been causing me some concern

My boyfriend has never slept in my bed with me

Whenever he comes over to my place we always end up sleeping on the couch or in separate rooms

When I asked him why he said that he's uncomfortable sleeping in a bed where other guys have been with me

He even mentioned that he wants to buy me a new mattress

At first I thought it was a sweet gesture, but now I'm starting to wonder if this is controlling behavior on his part

I have had past relationships and I don't think it's fair for him to judge me based on that

I understand that everyone has their own boundaries and comfort levels

But this seems to be taking it to an extreme. I also wonder if this is a red flag for our relationship

What size red flag you all?

No, I don't know how many there are anymore. I came to the table with three you added 15

So I don't know I think we're up to 86

I

Am worried that this behavior might be indicative of deeper trust or control issues that could be a problem in the future

I am trying to understand his perspective

But I feel hurt and frustrated that he would judge me based on my past

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