How could I have put so much of myself into someone else? How could I have invested so much of myself into someone else?

How could I have invested so much of everything that I have into someone else?

I say, you know, that feeling of emptiness that you feel is real.

It doesn't matter how strong you are.

Don't dwell too much on what you gave that someone else took from you and never gave back to you,

but focus on the fact that you are the source of what you gave. And if you were able to give it

once before, you're able to give it again to yourself. This time, learn how to give it to yourself.

Instead of investing everything that you have into someone else outside of you, the point is that you never build the understanding of who you are inside of someone else.

Because when you do that, you are basing your whole existence on how someone else treats you, on what they think is worthy about you, on what

they think your value is, on what they think, period.

These mountains that you're carrying, you're only supposed to climb.

You're listening to Unsween and Unfiltered the podcast, Episode 7 of Season 3.

The words I just shared are from one of my favorite poems of the talented Nidja Zibian,

who also happens to be today's special guest on the pod.

Heartbreak and pain are sometimes inevitable.

So how do we

grieve relationships that end? How do we process loss that comes with a broken heart? And most

importantly, how do we trust ourselves again?

Most of us are on this journey of unlearning which in a way you are learning in the process of it all too i came upon this stark realization that i am just a product of learned behaviors that have been toxic to my

well-being that my identity as a woman dictates how i am allowed to live my life, according to standards that have been set

for me long before I was even born. It truly takes a toll on you to carry this weight and to internalize

it all, making yourself believe that you are not enough. I hope to one day reach a point where I can

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