The number one thing I was looking for when I met you, if I was going to have a relationship

with someone again because I was on the fence, was willingness to do the work.

So for me, that would be one of the main things that I can look back at the toxic relationships

I've participated in and realize, okay, it wasn't so much what was there

that was part of it too, but I can really see what was missing. And there was a missing willingness

to address issues, a missing willingness to accept that things needed to be better or a little

different or we had to compromise or come together

in the middle. There's just a real radical lack of willingness. It was a real vibe of,

I am what I am and you can take it or leave it as opposed to working on the relationship together.

Hello and welcome to the show.

This is Emotional Badass where Moxie Meets Mindful.

I'm your host, Nikki Eisenhower, life coach and psychotherapist.

And I'm here today with my co-host, Chris Iacono, producer, and my husband.

And on today's episode, we're discussing how to know when a relationship

is toxic all right it's good to be with you again yeah you too this is an exciting topic

because I think we can both relate to it pretty well yes and I think sensitive people really struggle to know because we hear all the time that a good

relationship takes work, right?

Like we're in a good relationship and we both work on similar and different things

to be better people on our own right and then better people for each other.

And I think we always will.

Yeah. For me, that's the big identifier. That is one of the things that I think is lacking in

almost all of my relationships other than this marriage is not only being willing and able to work on what needs to be worked on,

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