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Healing Sexual Performance Wounds, Wearing “Sexy” Attire in Marriage & How Find God’s Gaze | ACW382

Ask Christopher West

Theology of the Body Institute

Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.9549 Ratings

🗓️ 27 April 2026

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Questions answered this episode:

  1. I have a question about Second Chronicles, chapter seven, verse fourteen, which says: 'If my people, who are called by my name, humble themselves, pray, seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.' My question is: how do we seek God’s face? I hear it all the time, but I’m not sure exactly how to do it. Is it through adoration, reading scripture, or sitting silently in His presence?"
  2. My wife and I have been married for 11 years with six children. Before we met, she had a four-year romantic relationship that was not chastened. Through the Lord’s work, we lived a call to chastity in our engagement and marriage. While there has been healing from her past wounds, we realize more is needed. When we married, my wife was shocked that she had less desire for sex than in her previous relationship. We also struggle for her to reach climax, which wasn't a problem then. This leaves me feeling unworthy, incapable, and unloved, despite her deep love for me. We’ve tried applying Theology of the Body to our struggle, but we don’t know how.
  3. Can you talk about lingerie or cute short dresses only used within the privacy of a husband and wife in Catholic teaching? I always thought about it as something beautiful that looks good and that I would love to wear, but not outside—something that my husband could enjoy between us privately. I’m worried it is not good to wear anything ‘sexy’ or short, flattering on the body, and clearly inviting even for your husband. I don’t know if this is scrupulosity or fear that it will be bad for our marriage, for him, or for me. For context, I’m not married yet but soon will be and I’m preparing excitedly.



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I have a lot of podcast listener faces from Mexico in my mind as we're recording this episode.

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As I just returned from a five-day, very intensive trip to Mexico.

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As of this recording, we're not exactly sure

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when this episode is going to air because our brains are in a fog about what we're doing.

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What are we doing here? We record these kind of in batches and we don't know when this is going to

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air. But anyway, it doesn't matter.

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It's a Monday for most of you listening to this,

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because we have a lot of loyal fans who tune in Monday morning when we release a new episode.

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So upon this recording, this was my point, I've just returned from five days in Mexico.

1:47.9

I taught a mini course at the John Paul II Institute in Mexico City.

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