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Nephew, thank you subject. He's so good yet so bad. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in my mid-30s and I've been with my man for five years, married for two years.

I love my man greatly and he treats me like a queen and has accepted my child as his own.

The only issue I have is that he does not listen.

When we have disagreements, it's mostly because of the way he says things to me.

I have to bring it to his attention and tell him how it makes me feel.

He usually says, well, you did this or that to make me say things like that to you.

That's not the way to communicate to anyone, and he doesn't get it. To keep the peace, I have to shift into I'm sorry mode and focus on his feelings because I don't want to crush his ego.

If I ever do anything to offend him, I quickly apologize, but he won't do the same for me. I tell him

all the time. If I don't have a safe space to express my

feelings, then I shut down. And he doesn't seem to understand that or want to understand it.

He told me that most men don't understand how women think, and he's no exception. I don't care

about most men. I need for him to listen when I tell him about my feelings and to acknowledge

that he hurts my feelings, then correct the behavior and stop doing it. I feel like I'm

slowly shutting down emotionally because I always try to take care of his feelings and he doesn't

care how I feel. He tells me to get over it because I'm always complaining about little stuff.

It's like I'm one of his homies and I'm not supposed to get hurt by him snapping at me or

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