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Assalamu alaikum my brothers and sisters children are a gift from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala many people don't have children

If you don't have children that is the choice of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala while you keep trying to have these children

We should not enter into territory that is prohibited in order to get children by hook or crook

So there is a limit that you could actually go to in order to try and get children or bear the children

But if not consider adoption to a degree the adoption in Islam is more about taking care of children who are not really

Yours and you actually look after them because they're often because they may be homeless etc

And the idea is to earn a reward from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala not that you can boast and brag that we have adopted and so on

But what I'd like to say today is go easy on your children

We're living in an environment that is very very difficult the pressures of

Society of technology of everything is absolutely tremendous. It's on another level

So if you're too hard and harsh upon your children or on your children

You may just lose them because they may snap out of the relationship with you out of frustration

They may not want to talk to you. They may not want to sit with you simply because your approach needs improvement

We cannot change what Allah has ordained

But the way we communicate it should be the best possible way and this is why when Allah speaks about

Speaking to those who don't believe at all and

addressing them or presenting a beautiful argument Allah says jadil hum bilhati here ahsan

When you are going to engage them in this back and forth of discussion

Then do so in the best possible way if this is the case with those who don't believe what about your own children?

What about those who are living with you when talking to them?

Try and engage them in the best possible way

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