Gabor Mate: Your Partner Choice Reveals Everything! The Hidden Cost of Ignoring Trauma

We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

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Leisure, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 652 Ratings

🗓️ 22 October 2024

⏱️ 81 minutes

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In this episode, Dr. Gabor Maté, a world-renowned expert on trauma, stress and addiction, reveals how childhood experiences and emotional suppression deeply shape our relationships and overall wellbeing. He explains how unresolved trauma from our early years can lead to stress and challenges in adult relationships, and offers powerful insights on how embracing vulnerability and authenticity can foster healing and transformation in both one's personal life and relationships. Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges or seeking personal growth, Dr. Maté’s wisdom provides a path to healing and improvement, by understanding the root causes of emotional suppression and learning to live more authentically. Follow Gabor’s work here: On Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/BHvQI3ZySNb/ ..and his latest book, The Myth of Normal - https://g2ul0.app.link/gOaWoFWySNb/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod — 00:00 Introduction 01:52 Career Change Tips for Older Adults 04:27 How the Mind-Body Connection Impacts Relationships 11:51 How to Choose the Right Partner for Long-Term Happiness 13:08 Why Authenticity Matters in and out of Relationships 16:19 How Childhood Attachments Shape Your Adult Relationships 18:25 How to Be Your Most Authentic Self the Power of Saying No 28:41 How Social Status Affects Relationships 29:54 Different Types of Stress and How to Manage Them 36:37 Is Your Partner Hurting Your Well-Being 44:54 How to Develop a Secure Attachment in Relationships 49:10 The Health Effects of Avoidant and Anxious Attachment Styles 54:03 The Link Between Addiction and Attachment Styles 01:02:15 What Is Trauma and How Does It Affect You 01:05:41 How Many People Are Living with Trauma Today 01:07:30 How to Heal from Trauma and Move Forward 01:12:02 Important Topics That Need More Attention 01:15:24 Most Memorable Conversations on Relationships 01:17:24 Key Takeaways from This Discussion — Sponsored by: Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Today's guest is Dr. Gabor Mate, a best-selling author and world-renowned expert in addiction,
0:06.7	stress, and childhood trauma. With decades of experience in the space, Gabor has revolutionized
0:12.6	the field of mental health and well-being, providing millions of people with life-changing knowledge
0:18.2	and advice. In this episode, we dive deep into the hidden forces that shape our lives.
0:23.6	People are relational creatures.
0:25.2	When I was being dishonest, my wife would get a neck pain.
0:28.6	Literally.
0:29.2	We get a neck pain.
0:30.3	After a while, she learned, I got this neckache.
0:32.5	Are you lying to me now?
0:34.7	We also dive into Gabor's definition of trauma.
0:38.5	Trauma is a wound that hasn't healed, which also means that trauma is not what happens to you.
0:42.6	I sustain a blow on the head.
0:44.1	That's not the trauma.
0:45.1	The trauma is the concussion that I develop.
0:47.6	We discuss addiction and how it can manifest itself in the different areas of our lives.
0:52.6	It could be heroin, crystalline, cocaine, nicotine, alcohol, sex, work, shopping, eating,
0:58.6	gambling, internet, gaming. According to that definition, have you ever an addictive
1:02.9	pattern in your life? Before we get into it, I want to ask you for a favor. We want to make sure
1:07.4	these impactful conversations get to as many people as possible.
1:16.7	By following this show and leaving a review, you help these conversations reach the people they need to.
1:29.1	If you send a screenshot of you doing both to the We Need to Talk Instagram page, I'll pick 10 of you to come down here to the studio to meet me, the guests, and let us know who you'd like to see on the show.
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