The Furt Show. The rules are changing, man. What's rude? What's not rude? Now saying thank you is rude in some cases.

This blew my mind, but there is like a logical component to it that kind of tracks and kind of makes sense.

So I was reading a theory that you should not send thank you emails anymore at work.

And I don't mean like you're interviewing for a new job so you don't send a thank you. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about like if I'm like, hey, Abby, can you please send me the script for your break and then she sends it to me? You know, like for like, let's say you're putting together, I don't know, an accent theater. Can you send me the script for accent theater? and you send it to me, I should not send an email back that says thank you. Accurate.

We need to stop doing this. Why? Because it just muddies up my inbox and it just adds more emails that I don't need. But that's exactly. That's literally why Kristen nailed it. So like for me, it's ingrained to be like, thank you for taking your time. even though it's part of her job. Thank you for doing this for me so I can do my job. Whereas Kristen's point is exactly what this theory is. It's like, if you're getting thank you emails nonstop, now you're distracted looking at the thank you emails and marking them as unread, which seems like a very small thing, but over time they add up. So you can be one less email in someone's inbox

taking up less of their time by not hitting back with a thank you. And it just feels so opposite

of what was ingrained in me. It makes me uncomfortable, but at the same time, like, it would be

nice. I don't know how I feel about it because I think I'd be offended if I never got a thank

you email. Yeah. But at the same time, those emails, I'm like, okay, okay, okay, okay, we're good, we're good. You're good. You got what you needed. Leave me alone now. It feels weird to say that showing gratitude is rude in any way, shape, or form. But it is a time suck. So this could be one of those cases where it's impact versus intent.

And I think in listening to you, I'm going to stay old school here and sorry if I am taking

on your workload.

Don't feel pressure to hit me back saying thank you for the thank you.

That would normally be you're welcome. But it sounds so weird to say like, hey, you can say thank you too often. Yeah, I mean, I'm a words of affirmation, girly. So anytime I get a thanks or a thank you for any reason, it just scratches my brain the right way. So if everyone could continue to thank me for doing the thing that I'm paid to do, I'd appreciate that. It's like for the major stuff, of course. Like you want to thank somebody.

Like if they did something, if they did an exceptional job, if they went above and out of their way,

like obviously we continue to show gratitude and show thanks because validation is important.

But if you say, hey, can you send me that and I send it to you and then you need to follow

up with a thank you, I don't need that.

I don't need it, but I appreciate it.

I still appreciate the thank you, even the pre-thank you.

Like sometimes somebody else asks you something and didn't say thank you before you even do it. Like I'm cool with all of the thank you, even the pre-thank-you. Like sometimes somebody else asks you something and didn't say thank you before you even do it.

Like I'm cool with all of the thank you. Then that's fine. In the original email, if you're like, hey, I need that document, please and thank you. And then you send it to him, then you don't need. You ain't got to say it again. I'm what you want to ask you. Then it's done at that point.

Let's start.

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