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What's up, everybody?

Welcome to another episode of Hot and Bothered with Melissa Ford.

I am in the Spotify studios in downtown Manhattan.

And I'm sitting with a guest that it took a labor of love to get our teams to finally coordinate.

Emmy nominated writer, executive producer, actress, and most notably stand-up comedian, Sam Jay.

What up, y'all?

Thank you so much for finally joining me on the show. Yes, absolutely. All right. So let's just get right into it. Self-awareness is a very long, arduous journey. And not all of us are... A lot of people do not want to do it. Yeah, they don't want to do it. They're not prepared. They're like, fuck that. But you know, it's crazy right now. Everybody thinks they're doing it, but they're not really doing it.

And they're like, because they just like read an Instagram, like, little quotables and stuff.

And they, like, learn all the buzzwords, but they don't do, like, the actual stuff.

And those are, like, the most dangerous people because you can't tell them that they're not

healed and they're like insane what's your self-awareness journey been like man because I can tell

you all about mine and that should have been fucking hard but I'm always interested to find out

what what was the catalyst for change when it comes to you know know, just wanting to know yourself a whole lot better?

Well, like, really it was like just a lot of tragedies in my life, right?

That's what it usually is.

Yeah, like my mom died when I was 16, right?

My dad died when I was a baby.

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