Don't leave the relationship in search of something that's quotes better.

Because better isn't necessarily going to come from someone more attractive or from someone with more resources.

What you're really looking for from a spiritual perspective is one of the false assumptions that we tend to make from a spiritual perspective is that our partner is there to make us happy.

And this is the ultimate definition of an ideal partner, right?

Somebody who delights us, someone who entertains us, someone who doesn't have a lot of issues or problems or flaws. And when we eventually

discover their character flaws or their unattractive personality traits, we tend to make

another false assumption that there's someone else out there who's not as flawed and who may be a better fit for us. And that person

in our mind becomes a more attractive option than the person we're currently with. Now, the

reason why these are flawed assumptions is because everybody has flaws. Your partner may have a hundred flaws,

right? But you can bet that any new person that you end up dating, once you get to know them

a little bit better, is going to have just as many, if not more, flaws, things that you find

absolutely intolerable. Now, a not more, flaws, things that you find absolutely intolerable.

Now, a lot of these perceived flaws in your current partner come from an unfair expectation

that your partner should be more like you, right?

That they should process information more like you, that they should think about life more like you.

And the reality is they are their own person with their own set of life experiences that have informed their perspective and their own ideas about what's best for them and their own priorities, just like you.

And here's something else to consider.

Imagine if someone asked you to list all of your flaws and you were feeling, you know,

relatively honest and transparent with them, how many flaws

would you be able to list? Five, maybe ten. I don't like making up the bed. I don't

like sharing my food, right? Stuff like that. But then we can turn around and easily list dozens of deep-seated personality flaws in other people.

And what that tells us is that we're not able to see our own flaws.

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