Hello, hello, everybody. Welcome back to another episode of Fluently Fixed, where I, just like

Chris Martin, will try to fix you. So without further ado, let's get into the first of the three

questions that we have today. Somebody said, Shannon, I am going through a breakup where I was dumped,

sick, and this has to be one of the weirdest

reasons I've ever been given.

I've had a few serious relationships.

We usually part ways for normal reasons, not compatible, we fight too much, whatever.

But this time, the guy told me that I was too negative.

I don't know why, but I'm having a really hard time shaking this.

He said he wants someone more upbeat and optimistic, and I'm basically too much of a bummer. Any advice for getting over being dumped, but getting

dumped for a very personal reason? And do you have to be peppy 24-7 to keep a relationship

these days? Wow. This is funny, but not like ha-ha funny. We're like sad funny. It's just the worst because after a

breakup, we always want the reason why the breakup happened. And this is always me like patting around

the house. Like, I didn't get my closure. I need to know why. But you normally don't. Because now

that I'm thinking about it, in all honesty,

the few times that I have gotten the why, it really doesn't do much to help. It just kind of

makes you circle the drain on like that one particular thought or characteristic that they

personally didn't like for themselves. And when I think back on people that I've dumped in my

past, my why reason wasn't anything they should have changed about themselves. It was just,

it wasn't why I don't like you. It was why we're not supposed to be together. And I think,

honestly, this is a, you know, huge mistake on this ex-boyfriend's part because

you're not supposed to phrase it like, this is what's wrong with you. It is always an umbrella

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