Someone observed that when you see a brick wall, you've got to remember that that was built

one brick at a time.

Time is a key factor in the same way.

If it feels like there's a wall between you and your spouse, it's probably because over

time, a number of small things have added up.

And what we want to do today is help you have some tools to bring the walls down in

your relationship and to reconnect.

I'm John Fuller, joined in the studio by Aaron and Greg Smolley, and Aaron, it seems

that the little things are really the things that become big problems over time.

Yes, they sure do.

You think about when things aren't addressed and they're just this little small thing,

over the years and through the seasons, they become bigger.

One couple comes to mind that early on, raising small kids, the wife felt very overwhelmed

and overloaded with responsibilities with having two small kids.

And her husband was out doing his thing, and he had hobbies as well as work, and on an

on-bitch, she never brought it up.

And so over the years, the pattern continued, and again, so often, one person doesn't even

know it's a problem because they haven't heard about it in a way that they can hear.

Typically, it'll come out during conflicts or something, but then if nothing's ever

resolved, they just keep going.

So fast forward to having teenagers in the division of roles and responsibilities in their

homes still feels unfair.

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