Find The Answers When There's Something To Prove

Love Over Addiction

Michelle Anderson

Society & Culture, Wifeofanalcoholic, Codependency, Relationships, Recovery, Alanon

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 24 May 2020

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Summary

For those in the US, today is Memorial Day. We honor those that have served this country for our freedom. Thank you. To their wives and children, thank you.

When we love someone suffering from addiction, holidays (like today) can be an excuse to drink or use more than usual.

So our podcast episode is all about you. It’s all about finding the answer you may have been looking for, and maybe where you didn’t expect it.

We dive deep into questions to ask yourself, and yes, have a conversation with yourself in a closet, bathroom, or your safe space.

There’s never judgment here, I did it all the time. And a lot of women in our community do too.

Learn more here: https://loveoveraddiction.com/prove-something-find-answers/

Join the community: https://loveoveraddiction.com/

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Hey, it's Michelle. It's a beautiful Saturday morning.
0:24.0	I am, I record these in advance.
0:28.0	You can hear the birds chirping and I'm sitting on my back deck.
0:32.0	All the kids are still sleeping and I am alone which feels like a miracle
0:39.3	having some alone time having been cooped up in the house for the last couple months. So I'm reading a book. I've mentioned it before. It's terrific. I highly recommend it's called maybe you should talk to someone. I came across a line a sentence that I thought
0:56.8	would we could talk about today. I'm going to read it to you. I have a patient who's in a relationship with a guy who doesn't treat her very well and she
1:08.6	won't leave because on some level she wants to prove to him that she deserves to be treated better.
1:17.8	She's never going to prove it to him, but she won't stop trying.
1:25.6	As soon as I read that letter, I mean that sentence, sorry, I thought, oh my goodness, that
1:31.3	so applies to our community. The book goes on to say that breakups are
1:36.4	awful but if we don't break up then we are negligent.
1:50.0	Now, this reminded me, the reason why this reminded me of our community is because I thought about
2:02.4	the need that we have to prove that we are worth being loved, that we are more getting sober for.
2:05.0	I was worth getting sober for.
2:09.0	I was listening to a podcast this week and it was a story about a woman who a true story who was married to a man in the mob who was very abusive and she said my biggest weakness my biggest mistake was when he would yell at me I would fight back.
2:36.0	And I thought that was interesting because I remember fighting back so many times and I always assumed it was I was fighting because I
2:50.0	was being an advocate for myself I was sticking up for myself. I was sticking up for myself. Someone was trying to put me down and I was
2:59.2	defending my morals or my values or my personality.
3:05.0	But this quote in this book made me reconsider that.
3:10.0	And to think maybe it was me trying to prove to my ex-husband that I was, that he was wrong,
3:20.0	that the awful names that he was calling me or the accusations that he would accuse me of being
3:28.1	crazy or dramatic or overreacting or never being able to relax. Maybe I was trying to prove when I was
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