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Therapy in a Nutshell

Feeling Like You're Never Good Enough?

Therapy in a Nutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness:mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.8658 Ratings

🗓️ 16 October 2024

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Learn to process your emotions: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Z5-lgnIMqNw I polled my audience and 92% of you said you always or sometimes feel like you are never good enough. This is so crushing. Believing that “you’re never good enough” can contribute to depression and anxiety, so we’re going to break it down in a way that won’t make you feel like a failure for feeling like a failure and explore some ways we can work through this. But first, let me tell you a story about a couch (I promise it’s relevant). Feeling “Never good enough” is so big, so heavy, so scary, no one taught us what to do with these thoughts, and we’re afraid to take them out of the box, because maybe we won’t be able to handle them. But the truth is, when we open them up, break them down into small pieces, and work through them with support, we can totally handle them. When we do this in therapy, I hear people say “Why didn’t I do that sooner? it wasn’t as bad as I feared”. So let’s do this with the belief that you’re “Never good enough,” and maybe we can keep you from getting a migraine and sweating profusely. Click on the link below to access the transcript. https://therapyinanutshell.com/feeling-never-good-enough/ Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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0:00.0

Hey everybody, Emma McAdam here. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist,

0:05.0

and you are listening to The Therapy in a Nutshell podcast.

0:08.0

In today's episode, there's actually several visual references.

0:12.0

I'm going through this thing where I unpack a box to help demonstrate how we unpack our emotions.

0:17.0

So if you get the chance to watch this on YouTube, I'd recommend watching it there.

0:21.6

But regardless, I hope you enjoy it here and get some benefit from it. As always, these episodes are not therapy.

0:27.6

They are educational only, so if you are working with a doctor or a therapist, please continue to follow their guidelines and instructions.

0:33.6

And with that, let's begin the episode.

0:35.6

I pulled my audience and 92% of you said you always or sometimes feel like you are never good enough.

0:42.3

This is so crushing.

0:44.3

Believing that you're never good enough can contribute to depression and anxiety.

0:48.3

So we're going to break it down in a way that won't make you feel like a failure for feeling like a failure. And we're going to explore some ways that we can work through this.

0:57.0

But first, let me tell you a story about a couch.

1:00.0

I promise it's relevant.

1:01.0

Okay, so last year, Ryan and I bought a new couch for the first time in our lives.

1:05.0

So previous to that, we've always bought couches used from the classifieds and we just took our chances

1:12.6

But I guess now that we're like 40 we should buy a new we thought we should buy a new couch

1:17.6

So we picked out a couch from Costco and we rented a truck and we drove at home and then we had to figure out how to get it into our house

1:25.6

It was like 300 pounds maybe Maybe it was more than that.

1:29.3

And it was in this huge box like four feet by like seven feet. And the box had handles. And between the two of us, we could like barely lift it.

1:38.3

So we tried to get it in through the door from the garage, but that door was too narrow. So then we tried to get it through the front door and that door was wider and it fit,

1:47.5

but then our hallway turns 90 degrees and we couldn't get it through the turn.

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