Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness, rather

than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope as you

spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

Dear Lisa, I am a love addict and I am addicted to relationships. The last relationship I had almost killed me.

I am watching your videos and I realize I am most likely in withdrawal.

I have struggled with eating disorders in the past, but this seems so much harder.

Any insights would be appreciated.

So today we're going to be talking about relationship withdrawal, love addiction withdrawal,

and why it is so difficult to heal from this type of an addiction.

I have my own theory. I am somebody who I believe was a love

addict. I believe that love addiction like Pia Melody believes is rooted in abandonment,

the fear of abandonment. If you have a fear of abandonment, you know, that means that you've been

abandoned. Hello. You know what it feels like. You know, if you have been bitten by a dog, you have a fear of dogs because the dog bit you,

and you have an experience of pain. And your brain is designed to avoid pain. And the brain is designed

to remember painful events. Why? So you can avoid them in the future. The problem is that we are stuck

focusing on the pain. We are stuck trying to avoid future painful events and we're not operating

consciously so we really don't understand the mechanisms by which we're operating. And so when we are

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