Fan Mail Friday #134 | Less Ego, More Amigo

The Art of Charm

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Health & Fitness, Education, Business

4.7 • 11K Ratings

🗓️ 29 September 2017

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. This week, Kimberly Seltzer joins Jordan and Jason to set your questions right and help you course correct. Let's cut to it! In this episode: How do we cut off relationships with addicts when they're so good at making us feel sorry for them? Your good friend's significant other is a disrespectful, bossy mismatch, and it's obvious to everyone in your social group but him. Is there a way to hang out with him without her? When both partners in a long-term relationship have partaken of infidelities, can trust ever truly be regained between them? On paper, you seem to have your act together -- you maintain fitness, you have a good job, and you're friendly and outgoing. So why aren't you getting second dates or approached in real life by potential suitors? How do you help your best friend of 13 years maintain a healthy mental life and not get sore over his rebuffing of your suggestions -- especially when he's got another friend who encourages his bad behavior through binge drinking? How do you get over a five-year dry spell when your longest relationships won't last longer than a month? Documentary of the Week: Hot Girls Wanted Quick shoutouts to Mark and Janine and the UPS delivery dame! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf134/ Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text AOC to 38470. We'll take you step by step to becoming better at making personal and professional connections, becoming a better networker, increasing your personal social capital and charisma. This is for both men and women! HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Art of Charm. I'm your host Jordan Harbinger. I'm here with producer Jason
0:13.2	at Philipo and Kim Salter. Here at the Art of Charm we may not have all the answers but
0:18.0	we certainly have some of the questions and today on this special episode of Van Mel Friday,
0:22.6	those questions come from you and Kim and I both will be here to answer them instead of
0:26.8	just lonely old me. Oh and if you're dying to hear feedback about the Roger Stone episode,
0:32.7	we'll address that feedback on Van Mel Friday 135 but for now sit tight because you got Kim
0:39.7	Salter myself and Jason here for this one. Alright let's cut right to it. Hi Jordan
0:44.1	Jason and the rest of the AOC team. First I want to thank you for all that you do. You're
0:48.4	changing lives and it's wonderful to tune into AOC. I tried to search for answers and explanations
0:53.8	regarding addiction and loving someone who's an addict and I couldn't find anything to help
0:58.0	me gain a perspective that makes me go aha so I thought who better to ask than the AOC team. I
1:03.9	recently ended a relationship with someone who's addicted to opioids. Oh man. We had a long distance
1:09.4	first half of the relationship and I had no idea what was going on in terms of his addiction. The
1:14.6	second half I was able to see him more regularly and cut on fairly quickly. I ended the relationship
1:20.5	and convinced his family to send him to rehab because things got out of control. Rehab helped him
1:25.4	tremendously and I started to believe that what happened before was all because of the drugs and
1:29.6	that it wasn't really him, the sober him. After rehab and three months clean he relapsed and I ended
1:35.5	up having to cut things off again. He's been begging me to give him another chance and I certainly
1:40.6	will not because I know it will be an ongoing vicious cycle. But right now I'm confused. I'm angry
1:46.4	but I'm sad. Angry for the lies and manipulation but sad to know this person is truly sick and needs
1:52.2	help. How do I move on from this? I think part of the reason I get sucked into these
1:56.4	codependent relationships is because I'm always trying to help people and feel that everyone
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