Hello, Loves. Welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things. I get so amazed and excited every

time you come to this little party that we're having. So thank you for coming. Thank you

for showing up at our We Can Do Hard Things party. Super excited today because we have

the magical, wise, incredible Esther Perl back with us. And she is answering your questions

today. And I don't want to take up any extra time here. So let's just jump right in.

Hi, Glennon and sister. My name is Melissa and I'm a mom of two. My hard thing is my husband

and I's relationship does not have anything inherently wrong. We don't have any major issues

and we fight very infrequently. But I find myself feeling very stagnant in a relationship.

I recognize that he is an amazing provider. He gave me my two beautiful, amazing girls

and he is steady. He's constant. He's not going anywhere. He tells me that. But there's

no stark. There's no pursuit. There's no adventure. There's no passion. And I used to

try to make that for us. But it's been kind of rejected and not received for so long

that now I'm finding that I'm not even trying anymore. And I feel so sad about that. My

question is, what do you do when you feel like you wouldn't have much of a relationship

without your kids being there? The last question kind of takes it in a different

direction. So which one do I want to answer? I would want to know, what did you try

before? Did you say, let's go to a club, let's go dance, let's go take a walk together.

Did you hold his hand and he took the hand out? Did you sit next to him on the couch and

he basically doesn't notice if you're there or not? Did you try to put your hand in his

hair and his hand never comes on you? What did you try for which you say the response

was such that I stopped trying and I basically closed in and basically shut myself down.

So there's two ways to change it. You either restart certain things like that and you

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