Well, one thing that I had, I've been facing for a while, maybe for the past six, seven years now,

is that the problems I have with my sister-in-law. I mean, she is a lovely person and she is

my brother's love, but I have so difficulties to accept her and to connect to her and somehow

I see her as something between me and my brother. My brother and I used to have a very strong connection

before her and I come from a culture where families are, you know, how connected we are and

for example this year they called me to say happy birthday to me and I couldn't even talk to her

and I just tried to be polite and I texted her and I say I'm sorry I'm out I cannot talk on the phone

um, however I just cannot let her in.

Hello, hi Esther. So when I listen to you, I'll tell you what goes

through my mind with questions, right? Is it this particular woman or would it have been any woman

that you would have experienced is severing the tight bond that exists between your brother and you

or how can my brother who loves me so deeply choose someone so different from me?

What does that say about his love for me or about how he sees me that he could choose someone

who is so not what I am? Yes, exactly. Which one? I have one more but you can start with those two.

I think to be honest with you, he had like other girlfriends, but this particular one, I think this is

something that the person that she is, is that she's so different from me. In what way?

She is quite loud. She is, to me, she is a complete attention seeker. She somehow has

drinking problems. I haven't been in social activities with them anymore because every time

we used to go to parties together, I used to get a terrible headache and I used to leave the party.

She has some certain behaviors that I feel that they hurt my brother. To me it's so painful

but at the same time I cannot talk about it to him because he has made his choice and I have to

respect that. When is he in the picture? Because this is a triangle. So where is he in the picture?

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