Esther Calling - I'm Keeping the Baby...Now What?

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 15.6K Ratings

🗓️ 3 February 2025

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

They had a whirlwind romance, and he spun a tale of their future to come—marriage, kids, a life together. He's in his mid-forties, and she is in her late thirties, and so after only three months together, she is pregnant, and they have broken up. Now, Esther meets her the month after their breakup and tries to help her illuminate a path forward. Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to [email protected]. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	I met this guy five months ago.
0:11.1	We fell in love.
0:13.1	Like, I really took my time to get to know him
0:15.7	because he was dating around quite a bit
0:18.4	and never having very long-term relationships. Yeah, so for the first time
0:23.4	in his life, he is 46 years old. He asked me to be his girlfriend and to be official. Quite early
0:30.0	in the relationship, he told me that he knew I was the love of his life and the woman of his life.
0:34.8	And I felt the same way about him that he is really my guy.
0:39.5	Quite soon, he started to push for having sex without protection for trying to have a baby.
0:47.0	And maybe for giving you some background information, I had really bad results when trying to do
0:53.4	egg freezing. So I was aware that I
0:56.4	might have trouble falling pregnant. But what happened was like we immediately felt pregnant and
1:03.2	were really happy about this. Quite shocked as well, but very happy. I really would love to become a
1:09.7	mom and I'm 37 years old and my partner as well. He loves
1:13.3	kids and always wanted to have a family. He just never was in a rush to do so. Quite soon after this
1:20.7	or parallel to this, a journey started where like a few unfortunate events kind of came together.
1:28.6	So my business partner, he really started to have a very toxic kind of way of talking
1:35.2	to me in the office and it all escalated.
1:38.2	And in the end he kicked me out of my own company.
1:41.4	And this was really a hard blow for me as well to deal with. So long story short,
1:48.6	I had a really bad month last month and everything kind of accumulated to the point where I was
1:54.5	really not well in terms of me struggling with myself and nagging about all the small things that my boyfriend did wrong.
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