Esther Calling - I Lost Him, But I Lost Myself Too

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 15.6K Ratings

🗓️ 12 February 2024

⏱️ 49 minutes

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Summary

She lost her husband five years ago. Now, she's finally ready to start picking up the pieces of her life to begin dating. Esther talks her through what it might mean to reframe her memories of their relationship. This conversation contains discussions of depression and death by suicide. Please take care listening. For the first time on the U.S. stage, Esther invites you to an evening unlike any other. Join her as she shines a light on the cultural shifts transforming relationships and helps us rethink how we connect, how we desire – and even how we love. To find a city near you, go to https://www.estherperel.com/tour2024 Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	In this next session we will be talking about death by suicide.
0:06.0	I want to take a moment to warn you in case this material is not for you.
0:22.0	I lost my husband of 25 years to suicide back in May of 2018. It was the most emotionally devastating experience I've ever had in my life.
0:32.0	And while I've done the work to know that there was nothing I could have done to prevent it,
0:37.0	what I'm most curious about now as I think about potentially entering new relationships, there's no one on the
0:46.8	horizon but just something I think about. What I'm curious about is what did I miss?
0:53.4	Like what behaviors did I normalize and settle for?
0:57.6	Because he was so different from men I had come to know in my childhood and early adulthood.
1:07.0	You know, I often did the heavy lifting emotionally in our relationship,
1:13.0	concern that I normalized behavior
1:16.8	that was maybe abnormal.
1:20.6	How could I have saved myself from such an emotionally devastating experience?
1:27.0	Like, should I have left sooner?
1:30.0	Just trying to get to the bottom of that if I can.
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