meta_pixel
Tapesearch Logo
Log in
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Calling - I Don't Want to Turn Into My Mother

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.715.6K Ratings

🗓️ 16 December 2024

⏱️ 57 minutes

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

After becoming a mother for the first time, a young woman reflects on the complicated relationship with her own mother. Esther guides her through establishing boundaries with grace, breaking generational cycles, and the importance of self-acceptance. If you have an individual question you would like to talk through with Esther, please send a voice memo to [email protected]. If you would like to apply for a couples session with Esther, please click here: https://bit.ly/40fGHIU. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0

Sometimes I think a good way to start is for us to listen to your question together and then take it from there.

0:09.3

Sure.

0:09.9

Yeah.

0:11.9

So my question is, how can I get peace or more peace or get more serene with the fact that

0:22.6

instead of becoming more and more empathetic for my mother after I just had a kid,

0:28.6

I am actually developing more and more resentment.

0:33.6

Everyone keeps saying, since I become a parent, I now understand mind and I'm so grateful, and I have the polar opposites.

0:41.8

I feel like I have a conflictual relationship with my mom.

0:45.0

I don't think she would think so, or she would deny it, let's put it this way.

0:51.0

And it was conflictual from my side before I became mom. And now it's been a year that I gave

0:57.4

birth to my son. And every day, I keep looking at him. And I keep thinking, how come could you

1:04.6

educate me like that? Like, no, when I see a vulnerable child in front of me, I understand less and less.

1:13.2

And, yeah, I find that difficult to process.

1:31.7

Support for the show comes from Zbiotics.

1:38.7

Zbiotics pre-alcohol probiotic drink is the world's first genetically engineered probiotic.

1:44.2

It was invented by PhD scientists to tackle rough mornings after drinking.

1:45.8

Here's how it works.

1:50.7

When you drink, alcohol gets converted into a toxic byproduct in the gut.

1:55.5

But pre-alcohol produces an enzyme to break this brib product down.

1:59.4

Just remember to make Zibiotics your first drink of the night,

2:02.7

drink responsibly and you'll feel your best tomorrow. Go to Zibiotics your first drink of the night, drink responsibly, and you'll feel your best tomorrow.

2:12.5

Go to Zbiotics.com slash Esther to learn more and get 15% off your first order when you use Esther at checkout.

...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Esther Perel Global Media, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Esther Perel Global Media and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.

Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.