Esther Calling - Esther says "Run!"

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 15.6K Ratings

🗓️ 23 June 2025

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

Does loving him come with a price? After four months of dating, he’s asking her to cut ties with all of her exes. Is this a sign of love and commitment—or a red flag? In this episode, Esther unpacks the deeper dynamics at play: boundaries, control, trust, and the stories we tell ourselves about loyalty. Esther challenges the caller to consider what she may be giving up in the name of love—and what it might cost her in the long run. Topic: Dating & Romantic Consumerism Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to [email protected]. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months.
0:05.0	We come from very different backgrounds.
0:08.0	He is Mexican and I am South African.
0:12.0	I am living and working in Mexico.
0:15.0	And although I believe jealousy is important in a relationship,
0:19.0	it challenges a relationship in a healthy way.
0:23.7	I have come to know that he is possessive and this is a very big concern for me because we have
0:32.1	our future planned and we have had many arguments around this topic,
0:38.3	and I think that this is going to be a recurring argument in our future,
0:43.9	and I want to approach him about my concerns.
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