Episode 80: Be A Man And Talk About Your Feelings
Pillow Talks
Vanessa & Xander Marin
4.8 • 2.2K Ratings
🗓️ 1 December 2022
⏱️ 74 minutes
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Summary
Ever wondered why the man in your life is so emotionally reserved? Ever been frustrated by how unwilling he seems to be to talk about his feelings?
You try to work though an issue in your relationship, but he’s stone-faced and tight-lipped, with nothing to add to the conversation. Or worse, after holding all the feelings in for so long, he has a huge overreaction of epic proportions that leaves you both wondering, “What the hell was that?”
You’re not the only one who wishes things would change. We asked the men of our Instagram audience if they wish they could be more emotionally intelligent, and 74% said yes.
In this episode, we explain why emotional intelligence remains so elusive for men and what can be done about it. Xander shares some of the emotional skeletons in his closet, how he was able to develop a healthier relationship with his emotions, and how other men can too. If you’ve never listened to an episode of Pillow Talks together, this is the one!
Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode80
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| 0:00.0 | I think most people think of emotions kind of as an inconvenience, and it's like, even |
| 0:05.6 | if you feel permission to have them or to feel them, or like, okay, it makes sense why |
| 0:09.8 | I'm feeling that. |
| 0:10.9 | There's still this hierarchy that like, being rational, not being emotional, like that's |
| 0:16.4 | better. |
| 0:17.4 | Yeah. |
| 0:18.4 | And we get praised for that. |
| 0:19.4 | Hello, and welcome to the Pillotox podcast. |
| 0:27.4 | Where are your hosts, Vanessa? |
| 0:30.4 | I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience. |
| 0:33.5 | And I'm just a regular dude. |
| 0:35.1 | We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for |
| 0:39.3 | improving yours. |
| 0:40.8 | Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical |
| 0:45.7 | relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom |
| 0:51.4 | doors and so much more. |
| 0:53.2 | It's the sex education you wish you'd had. |
| 0:57.9 | Today, we're talking about men. |
| 0:59.8 | Love it. |
| 1:00.8 | What? |
| 1:01.8 | Love that we're talking about men. |
| 1:04.3 | I love it. |
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