What truth is there in purity culture and how did it go so wrong?

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So today we are talking all about purity culture. We're going to get into a longer definition of it

in a minute but the basic idea behind purity culture is that you need to wait until you're

married to have sex because people who do wait are more pure, wholesome and desirable.

So in this week's episode we're breaking down the effects that purity culture can have on your sex

life and what to do if you don't like those effects. So this is the very first time that we have

ever talked specifically about purity culture and it was really interesting. We put up a bunch of

questions and slides on Instagram to do some research for this episode like we do for every

episode and we got some of the most impassioned responses we've ever gotten on all sides of this

issue. Oh yeah. Yeah people were really really looking forward to us doing this episode but before

we get into it we both want to be really careful to say this episode is not about telling anybody

what religion you should or should not be. It is not about saying that you can't have religious

morals or values around sex. We truly and deeply respect everyone's individuality, we respect

diversity, we respect everyone's ability to choose what feels right for them in their religion,

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