Welcome to the to love honor and vacuum podcast. I'm Sheila Ray Gregoire from the to love honor and

vacuum blog where we like to talk about how to make sex and marriage into a passionate

adventure and not just a giant to-do list and we are here in week

154 of COVID or whatever it seems like it is and I thought today we could do a COVID podcast.

So we have two COVID questions to tackle on our podcast

what it's like being in quarantine with your spouse.

And then I'm gonna answer another reader question as well. I know that in

some jurisdictions they're starting to lift some restrictions and so some of you might be able to move

around again. We're still not quite there where we are, although my life is pretty much the same as it would have been anyway because we have a big book deadline next Friday for our manuscript the Great Sex Rescue, which I'm writing with my daughter Rebecca Rebecca, and our friend Joanna, who's a research person

that's based on that survey of 22,000 women.

Thank you to all of you so much who filled out that survey

and who did some of our focus groups as well. So we're putting the final touches on that.

No matter what, I would be stuck at home writing furiously anyway, so I kind of feel like my life has not changed.

But I know for many of you it has and so I

thought we could tackle some of those questions. Here is a really good one that I'm

going to jump in with. A woman writes how do I feel sexy during quarantine?

I need some practical tips and some spiritual insight.

My husband wants more sex and I am so not in the mood

since my hair has turned brown, my eyelashes fell off and I just feel gross.

The situation makes me think about how we tie up our sexiness and this thought that we need to be pretty

and that our partners need to think we're pretty in order for us to feel desired

but I know that's messed up so I don't think it's just a practical issue I think it's a

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