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Help Me Be Me

Episode 56: How to get over it: How to stop old conflicts from stunting your present life

Help Me Be Me

Cloud10

Health & Fitness

4.81.9K Ratings

🗓️ 29 June 2015

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

This is for people who are aware of when old issues are entering their present and they know they don’t want that to be happening. Our old memories operate like a trigger/pattern system. Think of it as a pinball machine called “My Pain Game” and it makes the shape of your brain with all sorts of memories that you allow to define who you are, what is allowed to affect you and what you focus on and feel. You have that little pinball that lies latent but when it’s triggered – it shoots around your brain and activates different zones of pre-set actions. Those zones are things like, “ There are two little paddles you get to control at the base of this game. Your emotionally driven reaction depends on where you choose to hit this ball. If you hit it hard, it shoots into “pain and drama.” When you don’t hit it at all, it drops off the board. The point being – you are the one who keeps the ball in play. So when it goes into a certain area, it activates new triggers that are not controlled by you. Those little “hot spots” that shoot it even harder – these emotional hotspots take over the game and the ball will shoot around the table at top speed. The ball makes its way around and back to our hands – and what we tend to do is shoot it back up again, causing it to replay the series of triggers we have all over our “memory of self.” Just like a pinball machine – often it feels in our mind like we have no control and we are not to blame for this patterned response. However – ultimately we have control, and we can choose to keep the ball in play or not. Our power comes into play when we actually choose to USE that control in the moment it counts. When we have the brief moment of awareness – that we are about to play out our game again. Aren’t you sick of the game? I bet you are – because what you’re losing right now is quality of life. If your old pain is old enough, it’s likely voiced by the rationale of a child – so the childhood logic, which is petty and small – is still operating you. Even if the situation is recent and totally unrelated to your childhood dynamics –the same baggage will pilot you when a trigger comes up. Don’t let it. You’re a grown up now. And grownups can look at things and put them down already. Old pain is totally unnecessary and the only person it robs is YOU. You hurt you by wasting your valuable moments in an old automatic loop of behaviors and thoughts and reactions. Who wants to play this now? It’s old, dusty and not fun. For more visit Teaspoonofhappy.com and please review me if you like this! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hi friends it's Sarah May and this is an episode for everybody for Adam and it's

0:22.1

called how to Get Over It's About How to Stop Old Conflicts

0:27.4

from stunting your present life. This is for anybody who is aware of when old issues are entering their present, and they know that they don't want that to be happening.

0:38.0

So as usual, there are three parts, the what, the why, why and the how the tools without further to do let's do this the what

0:50.0

Basically our old memories operate like a trigger pattern system. So think of it like a pinball machine.

0:57.2

And the pinball machine is called My Payne game. And it's kind of the shape of your brain and it's got all sorts of memories that allow

1:06.7

you to define who you are to yourself.

1:11.0

And it's also got things like what is allowed to affect you and what you focus on and feel.

1:17.0

So you have a little pinball that lies latent, but when it's triggered, it shoots around your brain and activates different zones of these preset actions and

1:26.6

emotions and with them kind of a broken record of emotional baggage.

1:33.2

The base of this game, two little paddles,

1:35.7

and you get to control what happens when you get triggered.

1:40.3

Your emotionally driven reaction depends on how hard and where you choose to hit this ball.

1:49.0

And if you hit it hard, it's going to shoot into pain and drama.

1:53.0

When you don't hit it at all, it drops off the board.

1:58.0

The point is, you are the one who keeps the ball in play.

2:02.0

So when it goes into a certain area, it activates all sorts of new triggers

2:06.5

that are not controlled by you. Those are little hotspots. And those are the ones that you don't realize are waiting there when you choose to activate this pain game

2:17.1

So you might go through a broken record routine and then all of a sudden you're in a whole other mess of painful emotions and feeling like you're not getting what you need and you should and all of a sudden your whole night has been taken away from you, your whole weekend

2:35.4

has been taken away from you, or every Christmas is taken away from you because you're playing

2:39.7

out these heavier and heavier routines in this pain game.

2:47.6

So this ball makes its way around

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