Hello, and welcome back to the Self-Healer Samboard.

Every episode we invite all of our viewers and listeners, so all of you, to send us your

request, your comments, your feedback, to let us know what it is you would like to hear

discussed on these episodes and really how you're engaging with the content and what is

coming up for you.

So today's episode comes from a direct request from one of you viewers and listeners, and

it was a request to talk about the difference between enabling versus compassion.

So today we are going to break down just that and go into what enabling is, why we enable

and how we can begin to stop enabling.

We actually did an entire episode on the topic of self-compassion.

It is episode 45 for anyone who is interested.

So today's discussion we're going to really focus on the enabling piece.

Before we get started, just so that we're all on the same page on what compassion is,

compassion is a feeling.

It's a feeling of holding space for someone else's suffering, usually coupled with, it

is I are to help to make them feel better, to solve the issue, to take away the problem.

And I think that's an important part to separate what compassion is as a feeling from what

enabling is, which is an action. And again, I think that can open up the discussion and

really understanding oftentimes those to get connected.

When we feel so badly for someone, it becomes really easy to feel compelled or inspired

or want to action and to take away that pain.

I love breaking the two of these down and I also, I look at compassion as a feeling

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