Episode 55: Jealousy – How to Rise Above Your Weakest Self

Help Me Be Me

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Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 19 June 2015

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Jealousy, or a perception of your insecurities come to life. How does it sneak into your mind? Your darkest thoughts in your most fearful voice begin scratching at your feelings, dragging you down and causing you to act as your lowest self. You assume you are less than and life is against you somehow. You're either not enough, or something else outside of you is not enough. What is this emotional state? Your lowest form of self, the self that is motivated by fear and hate, put in a threatened defensive position. Think of it as You minus your awareness of what is good and loving in this world. This low emotional self is also called your irrational self. Most of jealousy acts as a hallucination. It does not show you reality it shows you insecure self-loathing reality: in that world, no one likes you and all the fears you have about yourself are true. For many of us it is clear that we are in an emotionally charged, irrational state – however, we cannot stop ourselves from wanting to “solve” for the perceived insult. “Is it true?! If so, how true? I need to know!” Nothing will quench the irrational need to compute “why” we have been betrayed: we go into loops of solving, calculating, tallying, replaying. And jealousy has a very potent ability to madden us for that reason: it’s all consuming, it belittles us, and we are aware it’s inside of us and us alone. A self-inflicted pain with the power to torture and haunt our every moment. You will never arrive at your truth through jealousy - you can only do that from a calm, objective vantage point - so this is all about stepping back from the emotion so you can regain your sound thinking. The power behind jealousy is also the key to undoing it: it does not live in reality – it lives in our reaction to reality. So we can indeed help ourselves when we struggle in the triggered moments. Hopefully, I will offer you a few tools to help you navigate out of it and back to your true and highest self: grounded, making decisions from a balanced and sane mindset. There are three parts: The what. They why. The how: the tools. This one is for Fran - thanks for writing me and I hope you likee! xox Sarah May B. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:48.0	jealousy so it's hopefully going to give you some tools to rationally talk yourself out of jealousy because I think if you suffer from it you're probably aware
1:00.4	You don't want it you would choose to help yourself out of it. It's more about
1:05.8	needing a map. So hopefully that's what I'm going to give you today.
1:09.7	So per us there are three parts, the what the why and the how the tools so here we go the what so jealousy what is it from it's a
1:19.7	perception of your insecurities come to life. So how it sneaks into your mind is kind of your dark fearful
1:26.9	voice begins scratching at your feelings, dragging you down and making you feel that you are being
1:33.9	short-handed or that you are less than or any number of different
1:39.2	painful very old emotions. So think of it as your lowest form of self, the self that is motivated by fear and hate.
1:48.0	And you can think of it as yourself minus the awareness and focus on what is good, on love, and basically rational, logical thinking. It's your irrational self. That's what jealousy is. It's you
2:07.3	without balance. So most of jealousy acts kind of like a hallucination.
2:12.8	It doesn't show you a reality, it shows you the insecure
2:17.8	self-loathing version of reality.
2:19.7	So in this world, no one likes you and all the fears you have about yourself come to life.
2:24.6	So I'm not talking about jealousy that you feel for something that you truly appreciate.
2:30.4	Because that's different. That's like an understanding of an achievement and that I would think of that as something special like something to value about yourself.
2:38.0	When you feel really impressed by someone and you wish you did what they did, I believe a simple shift in the label you have for
2:45.2	this feeling is all it takes to change it. Like you might assume that it's a negative,
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