Hi friends it's Sarah May and this is an episode for Laura from Spain and thank you for writing me this is a

really good topic and it's it gets relevant to a lot of people.

So I'm calling it pain baggage slash love languages,

but it's basically about how to live with less blame and resent

and more love and happiness in your relationships.

Because in a lot of our relationships,

a lot of the problems that we have,

rise from miscommunication of love languages.

Like basically how we exchange love comes in totally different ways and sometimes it's completely misread by the other person.

So when we get into fights over needs that we feel are not met. It's because of our past and it's because of how we learned

how to love and also our baggage, like what we never got as children from our parents.

So often in a relationship we put these needs on to our partner

or onto our friend or family member.

Whoever it is, we feel they owe us something and it's their job to give us something

and if they don't give us that thing, that they don't love us enough. And that's not the case. So this is about how to identify that and then also how to help

yourself out of that. And as per ushed, there are three parts. There's the what, the why, and the how, which are the tools.

So to be clear, this is about all relationships

and they involve conflicts between the needs of you and whoever you are interacting with.

And just basically when those needs don't match up.

So for anybody listening, I apologize for the

radio silence. I've been away because I got hitched y'all. And it was awesome and

it was wonderful and now I'm back.

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