Hello, friends, it's Sarah May. This is an episode for somebody who filled out my survey and I don't know your name, but this is for you. It's about how to break out of the vicious cycle of a narcissist relationship.

And you asked specifically how do you stop the cycle?

Because it can be extremely difficult to escape

because it is so just wrapped up in everything about you and your feelings about yourself and it

plays on your complete person just how you feel about how good you are as a human, how you feel about other people and all of your

insecurities. It's very, very difficult. And it's terrifying because it feels much like a hostage situation

because of the tactics of a narcissist.

It's just one of the hardest things to escape.

There is. So if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you know how ruthless and dark their style of punishing you can be. It goes really deep into your heartstrings, puppeting you around like a

raw nerve. So in other words, they are master controllers and they know exactly what to do to make you do what they want you to do and they will do it at any cost.

So before I go on I'm going to remind everybody that the headspace contest is open still so if you go to teaspoon of happy.com you can enter to

when a year of headspace which is an awesome mind quieting meditation app so this episode is in three parts. The what, the why, and also tools. And I'm

going to provide the blog version of this on my site later in the week.

Part one is the what?

So a relationship that operates based on you being there for some other person

and them not really being there for you as much.

So they likely demand you jump through hoops

and as soon as you begin to stand up for yourself or kind of get your own life, drift from them in

anyway. They pull you back hard like rains and so often they will kind of stock you and keep you on your toes like

texting at odd times kind of button pushing behavior and it'll be like all-consuming kind of torture-like

nervousness on your part like you're constantly obsessing about if they're right or really makes you question your own

motives and feel guilty like a lot of incredibly intense guilt.

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