Hi it's Sheila from to love honoruum, where we like to talk about how to make marriage less of a to-do list and more of a passionate adventure.

And today I'm actually going to get a little bit controversial.

I know that that may shock some of you because wow it's not like Sheila ever gets

controversial but yeah we're gonna take on this idea that the way to fight a husband's

porn use is for the woman to just have more sex.

I talked about that in my book Nine Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage.

I talked about how stupid that was in my book The Good Girls Guide to Grade Sex.

I have talked about it a lot, but it seems like many people still don't get it.

And this is really, really important for us to get.

So welcome to the podcast.

Welcome to December as we're getting into the Christmas season.

And I hope you will forgive me for not being too Christmasy in this podcast, but sometimes

stuff happens and I feel like I need to comment on it right away.

So before I get into that too much I just want to say when I

point out stuff that's in the wider Christian world that is kind of off well

really off I don't go looking for this stuff I really really don't. I know that I've been really

outspoken against love and respect and against every man's battle and against some

of the things focus on a family has said, I don't go looking for this stuff.

I'm too busy, but I get emails from people

all the time with all kinds of links

of really disturbing things that are being said.

And if they're being said by really marginal

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