Episode 280: Low Libido & Relationships Cause Sadness
The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
Robert Duff, Ph.D.
4.5 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 27 November 2021
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions:
- I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do?
- Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why?
As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280
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| 0:00.0 | I know some people like to use sort of like a number, like what's your sex number? So if you had like a zero to 10, how important is sex to you? And if you wrote it down and your partner wrote it down independently, what do you think it would be? That's something to consider. You know, if you're at like a three or a four and she's at like an eight or nine or a 10, then that's obviously going to be a source of some, not necessarily conflict, but it's |
| 0:22.9 | going to be something that requires attention, requires working out in the relationship. |
| 0:27.1 | Hey, everybody. Before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does |
| 0:31.5 | cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general, and some of those |
| 0:35.8 | could be sensitive for you. I want to |
| 0:37.9 | simultaneously encourage you to be brave in consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize |
| 0:43.3 | your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a |
| 0:48.3 | question or an episode entirely. But feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what |
| 0:53.2 | happens. If you need to skip, that's okay. But, you know, feel free to give it a, check out the episode, and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay, but feel free to give it a shot first. |
| 0:57.5 | I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. |
| 1:02.7 | This is not intended to be direct medical advice, and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. |
| 1:08.1 | So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. |
| 1:27.4 | Thank you. for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right. Hello, friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self-help podcast, episode |
| 1:31.9 | 280. I'm your host Dr. Robert Duff, aka Duff the Psych. I make mental health content for real |
| 1:37.9 | people, just like you. And today I have a question and answer episode. If you're listening to |
| 1:42.6 | this at the release time, it's coming to you a little bit late because of the holiday. |
| 1:49.1 | So, yeah, I'm recording this. |
| 1:50.6 | It's about 9, almost 9.30 on Friday night. |
| 1:54.9 | It's been a really good time. |
| 1:56.8 | We kept things really small. |
| 1:59.3 | Just, you know, had a nice dinner with the family, |
| 2:02.6 | in family meeting, me and my wife and our kids, and focused on relaxation, gratitude, all that kind of stuff. |
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