Episode 216: Perceived Autonomy vs. Actual Autonomy: It’s Okay to Say No to Controlling Church Spaces

Bare Marriage

Sheila Gregoire

Marriage, Social Sciences, Science, Relationships, Sex, Christianity, Wife, Religion & Spirituality, Mother, Society & Culture, Advice, Family

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🗓️ 30 November 2023

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grim

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Sarah’s Wilderness to Wild program: https://wildernesstowild.com

No Eden Elsewhere blog talking about small group abuse at Watermark Church: https://noedenelsewhere.com/the-aftermath-stories-from-former-watermark-church-members/

Dee Parsons from The Wartburg Watch on why you shouldn’t sign a membership covenant: https://thewartburgwatch.com/2023/09/11/smart-christians-need-to-think-carefully-before-joining-a-church-with-a-membership-covenant-which-is-a-legal-contract/ and how to resign from a membership covenant: https://thewartburgwatch.com/permpage-how-to-resign-from-a-church-whether-or-not-you-are-under-church-discipline/

Our podcast with Naghmeh Panahi: https://baremarriage.com/2023/10/naghmeh-panahi-bullied-leaving-abusive-marriage-podcast/

Biblical Counseling post on 98 ways you can sign against your husband: https://baremarriage.com/2019/06/sinning-against-husband/

The consent form you sign for biblical counseling: https://baremarriage.com/2019/03/question-your-biblical-counsellor/

John MacArthur Sermon Clip: https://www.gty.org/library/sermons-library/70-54/bible-questions-and-answers-part-77

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Bear Marriage Podcast, I'm Sheila Ray Gregwar from Bear Marriage.
0:10.0	We like to talk about healthy evidence. to the bear marriage podcast I'm Sheila Ray Greg we're from bear marriage
0:12.9	dot com when we like to talk about healthy evidence-based biblical advice for your
0:16.3	sex life and your marriage so do you have perceived autonomy or actual
0:22.4	autonomy well you have both and how do those things
0:25.3	interact with each other how do they determine what we do with our lives? I am
0:30.8	joined today by my daughter Rebecca Lindenbach.
0:33.4	That's me.
0:34.2	And she, every Friday, we send out an email to,
0:38.6	I don't know how many people, about 45,000 people
0:40.7	who are signed up to our email list.
0:42.2	And Rebecca writes those
0:43.4	emails and when I used to write the email we had about a 20% open rate which is
0:47.2	really good yeah for our industry now that Rebecca writes it we have like a
0:50.5	50% it's been I will say thank you everyone who reads them every week it actually is such an encouragement that people seem to enjoy what I have to write and I love the replies that I get to. Yeah, it's often they're longer blog posts often, like they're really in depth and they're really thoughtful, especially about faith issues that we're going through.
1:10.0	And so we want to talk about one of her recent emails that she sent because I think it's a really important one as we transition into a couple of podcasts in the next few weeks that are going to be looking at church hurt and how we navigate church
1:23.9	hurt. Before we do that for something completely different, but also totally
1:28.2	on brand. Now is the time people. We have our survey open. We are collecting survey responses for our new
1:34.9	matched pair marriage survey and matched pair means that both of you in the
1:40.2	couple take the survey not together it's still totally anonymous totally anonymous, you don't know what your spouse is saying, but we're able to link you in a certain way, it's really kind of nifty, and then we can make some awesome comparisons and do some studies we haven't been able to do when we just survey men or just survey women.
1:56.7	So that survey is open to anyone who is currently married to any couple where at least one of you is a Christian and the link is in the
2:04.2	podcast notes it's going to be open for I don't know we'll probably keep it open
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