Episode 205: Speechmaking: Adolescents Learn From Experience, Not Words

Feeding The Mouth That Bites You: Parenting Teens Into Adulthood

Kenneth Wilgus, PhD, P.C.

Christian Parenting, Christianity, Teens, Education, Teenagers, Kids, Kids & Family, Parenting, Religion & Spirituality, Adolescents, How To, Parenting Teens, Parents

4.9 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 11 March 2025

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Today we continue with issues related to limit-setting with teenagers. As tempting as it is, making speeches is very ineffective in influencing adolescent behavior. Teenagers need to experience the consequences of their choices, either natural or through parent consequences. Jessica and Dr. Ken talk about both of their own struggles to avoid this trap and the situations that tempt parents to pontificate instead of act. We offer suggestions to increase your adolescent's learning experiences while reserving words for the most useful opportunities. You can order Dr. Ken's book "Feeding The Mouth That Bites You" here: https://a.co/d/hBnlbzI Got questions or feedback? We want to hear from you! [email protected] Music provided by the great John David Kent - https://www.johndavidkent.com/

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0:00.0	If you enjoy this podcast, would you mind leaving us a review?
0:03.7	This is how others find our podcast.
0:14.1	Welcome back to Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, a weekly podcast guide on parenting teens
0:19.1	and launching them into the world.
0:21.1	I'm Jessica Pfeiffer, and as always, I'm joined by psychologist and author, Dr. Ken Wilgus.
0:26.7	Hey, Dr. Ken.
0:28.0	Jessica, what's up?
0:30.4	Well, you know what?
0:32.0	I'm going back to the same thing that we've been talking about the last several episodes.
0:35.2	And we've talked about two lists that we're creating.
0:38.2	And we've talked about the limits and consequences list.
0:41.5	Right.
0:41.7	But, you know, sometimes...
0:43.0	And last time we talked about you're a judge, not a cop.
0:47.1	We did.
0:48.1	We did.
0:48.5	So this is like what we're answering email questions, sort of.
0:52.0	And we get questions about a lot of things, and this is sort of under the
0:56.8	category of implementing plan emancipation and the rules and expectation consequences list,
1:05.1	issues to kind of take into account. Is that right? Is that? Yes. Yes. And we talked about the
1:10.6	first issue, like you said,
1:11.7	was last week, a parent cannot make an adolescent to anything. You're a judge, not a police officer.
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