EPISODE 201: Couples Coaching Session: They Love Each Other… So Why Does Their Sex Life Feel Stuck?

Pillow Talks

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.8 • 2.2K Ratings

🗓️ 27 March 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

🎙️ Welcome to our very first coaching episode! Ever feel stuck in your sex life — like you know things could be better but have no idea how to fix them? That’s exactly where today’s couple is. In this special, brand-new format, we’re coaching a real life couple, and diving deep into mismatched desire, stress, and the invisible walls keeping them from a more connected, fulfilling sex life. We break down: 💬 When one partner feels standoffish about sex – What’s really behind the hesitation? ⚖️ Balancing work, kids & intimacy – Why stress kills desire (and what to do about it). 🔄 Breaking out of a relationship rut – Feeling stuck? Here’s how to start making real changes. 🔥 What happens when the woman has the higher sex drive – And how to navigate it without resentment. ✨ How to actually change your sex life – Small, doable steps that make a big difference. If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner keep missing each other when it comes to intimacy — this episode is for you. And stick around until the end because we have a special announcement you won’t want to miss! Links & Resources 💖 Join Deeper – our new relationship membership! Want more expert-backed support for your love life? Get access to our entire library of courses and guides, exclusive monthly live events with us, and Vanessa AI — your personal, on-demand relationship coach. 👉 vmtherapy.com/deeper 🔑 Take The Intimacy Quiz: Your Key To Love That Lasts Not sure where to start? Take our quiz to find out exactly what your relationship needs most right now. 👉 vmtherapy.com/5keys Stay Connected 📩 Join our email list – Be the first to know about exclusive offers, new products, and exciting updates:https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe. 📲 Follow us on Instagram – @vanessaandxander for behind-the-scenes fun, Q&As, and more tips on love and intimacy. 🎧 Subscribe & review – New episodes drop every Thursday! Don’t forget to subscribe and leave us a review—it helps us keep creating content you love. ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== 👏Thanks Goodwipes. Goodwipes will elevate your everyday hygiene with premium wipes that deliver a superior clean that no dry toilet paper can match. 👏Thanks Remi. Give your teeth a break without breaking the bank with Remiand save up to 50%. ➡︎ https://shopremi.com/PILLOW) 👏Thanks Cozy Earth. Get an exclusive discount for up to 40% off. ➡︎ https://cozyearth.com/pillowtalks 👏Thank you goPure. For a limited time, get 25% off. ➡︎ https://www.gopurebeauty.com/PILLOW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	I realized as well that we forgot, we talked about the five keys, but did we say what they are?
0:05.4	No, we didn't.
0:06.2	Okay.
0:07.1	That might be important.
0:09.4	That's a pretty important thing.
0:10.9	Okay, so the five keys are communication, connection, desire, pleasure, and exploration.
0:18.5	And in general, we tend to find that you have to go through them in that
0:22.8	order. Yeah, if you're starting from scratch. I mean, if we were starting to coach a new couple
0:28.0	and a brand new relationship, we would start from communication and go all the way through exploration.
0:35.7	Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast.
0:43.3	We're your host, Vanessa.
0:44.3	And Zander Marin.
0:45.3	I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
0:48.3	And I'm just a regular dude.
0:50.3	We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for
0:55.0	improving yours. Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex
1:00.3	tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind
1:06.4	closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd had.
1:13.6	I am so excited for today's episode. We are doing something brand new that we have never done
1:22.1	before. Oh yeah. That I think it's going to be amazing. I think so too. I hope so.
1:28.0	I think it's going to be amazing for the people that we're helping, but I think for everybody listening, this is going to be so cool.
1:35.3	So what we are doing is we are going to be coaching real couples through the challenges in their sex lives and relationships.
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